Wow, I am so sorry. I've been in a similar situation with a boyfriend who was addicted to crack and it is hard. Firstly, in my opinion you are right to not be with a man who smokes crack. The drug is terrible and can completely take over one's sanity... I know with my ex, he would make it sound like he was going to quit and then he would do it again. I would find crack pipes in his pant pockets even when he said it had been months since he smoked it. I even followed him one time and caught him buying the drug. Listen honey, this will make you go crazy. You need to look after you and only you. I think right now the best thing to do is get him established and make sure he is safe by himself... then let him go. That is all you can do. Does he attend Narcotics Anonymous meetings? What about rehab? Help him in the right direction, fast, and then you need to leave. You cannot save him, no matter how hard you try. For you, you should consider reading books on codependency and even attending a Codependents Anonymous meeting (CODA... enter that on a search engine and read up on it).... this helped me tremendously to separate other people's issues and to put what's most important first, me and my needs. Read a book called In the Meantime by Iyanla Vanzant. The best support you will get throughout the breakup. It is a great book and helped me to get away from my ex who smoked crack. Unfortunately, I stayed along long enough to get pregnant but while reading this book I found the strength to leave. I didn't keep the baby and I live with that but I know I did what was good. Please hang in there, I know it is tough but you MUST look after you. Good luck!