How can you convince a mother to let you become vegetarian?

My friend has a mother that doesn't want her to become vegetarian (not everybody has a hippy mom, I guess). How can we convince her that eating meat is wrong and that there are other alternative choices with the same nutrirional sources?


God also made something called fast food that is tasty but that does not mean that is good for you.....

PS: I think it's cruel to eat animals, if you don't agree with me, that's ok.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    There is a Japanese analogy/proverb that goes like this, "The nail that sticks up is the one that gets hammered down". People are like this everywhere. When you tell your family that it is your personal belief that animals should not be eaten, they take a look at themselves and it can be subconsciously translated into, "What you do is wrong and I choose to be right."

    Her parents have probably been taught a huge amount of misinformation by their parents and their teachers while growing up. You guys really need to research vegetarian diets and health before you even think about saying the "V-word" in front of your parents.

    When you have gathered enough information and feel confident in a vegetarian diet's ability to maintain or even improve health, you may mention to them that you have made the decision. They may be shocked, angry, worried, curious or many other things, but you must NEVER react to their behavior and always stay calm. If they are able to speak to you and respect your choice, please tell them everything and answer all questions. If they are rude, inconsiderate, judgmental, violent, or verbally abusive, refuse to continue any conversation until they can speak to you with respect.

    The best advice is to study everything that you can about a healthy vegetarian diet and keep yourself in good shape (better than most people your age or than your friends/family if possible). If nobody that you know shows a genuine, positive interest in your choice, don't give them the privilege of the knowledge that you have gathered. Work your way around any attempts they make to trivialize your beliefs and if possible, go shopping with your parents and buy things that aren't obvious veggie fare. Instead of trying to sneak fake meat into the cart, toss in lentil soup, peanut butter, pasta, fruits & veggies or anything else that you have learned is needed to fill any gaps in your diet.

    There have been vegan Olympic gold medalists and a vegan woman can create an ENTIRELY NEW,HEALTHY HUMAN BEING INSIDE OF HER. Many of these children stay vegan and grow up to be perfectly healthy adults. So just keep yourself educated about what you eat and don't let anyone tell you that a veg diet is lacking anything essential.


    If you want to become a lacto-ovo vegetarian, the transition should be quite simple. Almost all meats have widely available commercial replacements. All that you have to do is replace any flesh in your diet (beef, pork, poultry, seafood) with meat analogs or just leave it out altogether.

    You should keep in mind that a journey such as this can be quite short but should just be the beginning of a longer one to a plant-based diet with no animal products. This is because of the reality of factory farming in which animals that are kept alive to produce milk, eggs, etc suffer much more and longer than animals that are raised to a certain weight and then slaughtered.

    Some people use the word "vegan" in reference to this idea, but be aware that applying that label to yourself should always come with the inclusion of wise activism and advocacy.

    Two extremely important examples of this are that you should never speak to someone about vegetarianism/veganism without their consent and genuine interest or as a comment on what they are eating AND your dietary beliefs should never be used as an introduction or explanation of who you are as a person. Veg*ism should be something that comes up AFTER people get to know you and they offer you a situation that makes it confusing to withhold the information/discussion. Also, if you are presented something that you choose not to eat or you are

    ordering food/eating together somewhere/picking the best place to eat.

    When you you hold off on the subject until it's necessary and then act like it isn't a big deal at all, people are usually surprised and WAY more interested and curious than if you were to bring it up when someone's eating or just using it as a conversation starter.

    A responsible vegan ALWAYS studies the subject of their own health and how to keep their body completely provided for in every sense.

    To neglect their body is to define a plant-based diet as unhealthy and is the opposite of helping the animals.

    Just to clear things up, the vegetarian/vegan diet is not composed of salads, vegetables, fruit and fake meat. Fruits and vegetables are always important but they DO NOT make up the largest portion of any healthy diet.

    A balanced plant-based diet includes grains(breads, pasta, rice,cereal), legumes(soy, beans, peas, lentils), fruit and vegetables.

    Being vegan can be an art, one whose challenge is to take things that involve the suffering of the innocent and change them into something free of cruelty.

    A vegan woman can create an ENTIRELY NEW,HEALTHY HUMAN BEING INSIDE OF HER. Many of these children stay vegan and grow up to be perfectly healthy adults. So just keep yourself educated about what you eat and don't let anyone tell you that a veg diet is lacking anything essential.

    Technically the term "vegetarian" does imply that you don't consume anything that comes from the body of an animal that requires killing it. Many ingredients such as gelatin and glycerin are found in many candies, Fig-Newtons, and many of other foods as well as rennet found in many cheeses.

    The best thing to remember is to take your time so that for example: when you are comfortable not eating beef and pork you can then give up chicken when you are sure you can make the commitment permanently.

    Depending on your age or reliance on parents or regional options, it may not be best to give yourself a label. The important thing is to do your best to make progress and be committed to your compassion towards animals. Never put your focus onto what you or other people use to describe yourself.

    If you meet someone that talks down to people for eating meat, dairy, etc or to you because they think they are "more veg" than you, laugh in their face and tell them they are a disgrace to the entire philosophy. People like this only hurt the idea of veg*ism AND the animals. The point of all of this is to live compassionately and and as free from cruelty as you can, all the while maintaining your health and a positive attitude. People who don't maintain either, need not open their mouths and represent our beliefs.

    If you actually choose to read all of this, I hope it helps. If not, feel free to e-mail me if you have questions.


    I'm vegan and these are some of my favorite things to eat:

    Breakfast: bananas, cream of wheat with brown sugar and soy butter, cereal, pancakes or french toast with real maple syrup, vegan "sausage" patties, smoothies.

    Snack: BRUSSEL SPROUTS =) no joke

    Lunch: VEGAN "SAUSAGE" SANDWICHES, sandwiches with vegan deli slices(Tofurkey is the only one that's kinda funky), fruit, dinner leftovers, couscous salad, vegan sushi, potato or pasta salad.

    Dinner: sloppy joes, "sausage" and gravy with homemade biscuits, Spaghetti and Trader Joe's "meatballs" or TVP, lasagna, Thai pad see ew, pad khi mao(drunkard's noodles), pad prig king, tofu+eggplant with basil sauce, yellow thai curry with tofu or vegan chikn and veggies and jasmine rice, Indian dal with homemade roti or dosai, channa masala, aloo gobi, vegetable or minestrone soup, pizza, STEAMED "PORK" BUNS with potstickers or spring rolls, sweet&sour/orange/lemon chikn, vegan pho or wonton soup, baked tofu, BBQ homemade seitan (tastes like BBQ'd ribs)

    I use these sites to find recipes:

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  • D D
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    You are not going to convince someone else that eating meat is wrong. What you should be trying to do is get them to accept your belief that eating meat is wrong for you.

    As for convincing them that you should be allowed to be a vegetarian, here's some things we went over with our oldest daughter when she wanted to become a vegetarian:

    - do the research so that you know which foods you will need to eat to ensure you are still getting all the proteins and other nutrients that you currently get be eating meat.

    - demonstrate that you understand that having a vegetarian in the house means that special meals will have to be cooked and that means more work in the kitchen. Have a plan for how to deal with this. Offer to cook your own vegetarian meals, and/or to be a bigger help to Mom in the kitchen in other ways. Don't just say these things - actually do them!

    - acknowledge that having a vegetarian in the house means a higher grocery bill. Can Mom afford this? If Mom can't afford the higher grocery bill would you be willing to contribute some of your own money to the extra cost?

    Hope this helps.

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  • If you can prove your mother, you are supplementing the diet with things that provide you with the same minerals and vitamins you want to override, then she will happily consider this way of life. However, you may be eliminating food from your daily diet and not replacing them with anything.

    Let's put aside the amount of the bill for the vegetarian diet and explore what you may not consciously doing. Do you eat and know the properties of all vegetables and fruits? or this is just a hip thing you are catching now?

    I don't mean to be harsh, but I don't agree in minimising the knowledge of your or your friend's mother about food values is the deal here.

    Entering a simple way of life...or becoming vegetarian is not just an overnight deal. I assure you that you have not taking any books that may be available in your own home about food properties.

    Is true your mother can't prevent you from becoming one, but when entering this way of life you should have the knowledge and maturity to embrace it and the wisdom to properly take care of your body...which is your temple!!!

    I advised you to really talk to your mother and to an specialist!!!

    Source(s): I'm pretty sure your mother has giving you enough trust to talk about anything with her...
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  • 1 decade ago

    Tell her you're doing it for health reasons, like to prevent heart disease and high blood pressure. Eating meat isn't wrong, in my opinion. People have done it for quite a while now. It may not be wrong, but it certainly is unhealthy especially since people eat way too much of it these days. I'm not saying everyone should quit, but cutting back would help your health. Your friend shouldn't try to "convert" her mom or anything, just let her know that its an alternative, healthier choice thats safe. If she does that, then I'm sure your friend's mom will respect your friend's decision to become a vegetarian.

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  • 1 decade ago

    You should do some research and find scientific papers that say that a vegetarian/vegan diet is healthier than or as healthy as an omnivorous diet, tell her that you ar ewilling to put some money towards your diet (assuming you are), and research and tell her (calmly and politely) about the way animals are treated. Perhaps I shouldn't say this, but honestly, I don't see a way that she can force you (your friend actually) to eat meat, if she just stops eating the meat her mum gives her, then her mum will probably stop giving it to her. Don't stop trying! It's a good thing she is trying to do!! Good luck!

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  • mouse
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    You can't convince her that eating meat is wrong...and you shouldn't try. By trying, you may strengthen her resolve against vegetarianism.

    What you should try to do is convince her that your friend wants to choose a different lifestyle and that's ok. Show her the nutritional information. If she really cares about your friend, she will support her.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    If we were meant to eat meat, then meat would grow on trees and we could just go outside and pick it up off the ground.

    This way, we have to raise animals, then murder them. The process could take years. Plus, then you have to make the animals pop out as many babies as possible before they go for murder.

    And why make your body a graveyard when it should be your temple?

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  • 1 decade ago

    god made fast food? huh???!!!!

    and their mother should get educated about veganism/vegetarianism.

    matter of fact a veggie and or vegan diet is much more better. those who eat well and fresh produce are less prone to diseases early on in life and obesity.

    remember also.. processed foods are not so good for you, the chemicals in it are harder to burn off than just eating fresh fruits and veggies along with straight out meat with no additives... fresher the better.

    it's not just the meat that isn't doing so well these days due to mass production but the chemicals that are used in it and remember it's not just meats... watch out for those frozen, canned and packaged veggies... fruits.. chemicals, additives in convenience foods aren't good for you.

    the bigger the labels and bigger the additive/ingredient names the less healthier it is for you.

    the body just can't digest all that processed chemistry.

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  • 1 decade ago

    just try explaining (calmly) why you want to become vegetarian, try showing her a veg cookbook so she can see that there are still a ton of delicious foods you can eat...try cooking something together for the family and see how that goes over :)

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    just sit down calmly and tell her how much it means to you and if she can tell you are genuine then she mite give in and let you and also show her all the things you can have instead

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  • Bert C
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    You don't. If she has already said no, then it is no until you are old enough to get a job and buy your own food.


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