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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsFamily · 1 decade ago

I think my brother is a phedophile, he is always with kids (he's 20), what should I do?

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Being around children doesn't necessarily make you a pedophile.

  • 1 decade ago

    Unless he has an innapropriate relationships with kids then I don't think there is anything wrong. He could just like children (in a pure sort of way). However, if you seriously think he is a phedophile then you need proof.

  • 1 decade ago

    Maybe he just enjoys being around kids in a non-sicko way. Some men like to be a kid again, and be a "Big Brother" to other kids, that does not make him a pedophile. However if you start to notice that he has lost interest in dating, or that he seems to be too "nice" to one of his "friends" then I worry, but as long as he's just playing a game of b. ball, or taking them to the arcade, I would think he just feels like he could make their lives a little better. Besides, if the parents of these children felt the way you do, they would stop the child from being around him. That doesn't mean that he's not a sick-co, but I don't think just enjoying hanging out with kids is bad.

  • 1 decade ago

    Firstly, be careful what you do. If you are wrong, it can damage him tremendously. If you are right, then it is also going to hurt.

    You didn't give a lot of details about him being with kids. He may like working with them without being a pedophile. Look for certain behaviors:

    1. Trying to be alone and in private with one or two of them at a time.

    2. Mentioning any child in a sexual manner.

    3. Buying gifts for the children, especially targeted gifts.

    4. Taking pictures of the children, in ones and twos, especially with inappropriate attention to them.

    lets assume you have gathered enough evidence to convince yourself that his behavior is not for the good of the children. I would probably go to the police, who will take a certain interest in the matter. The other option is to contact child protective services, who may be able to help also. Both of them have better access to the resources needed to judge this matter.

  • 1 decade ago

    You cannot assume that your brother has a problem like that just because he spends time with kids. Do you have a gut feeling that something is going on? Sometimes we know the answer to something and don't really want to admit it to ourselves. How do the kids behave around him? Do they seem uneasy? It's possible that he just really enjoys being around kids. Heaven knows that adults come with so much other "stuff" and kids usually don't. If you really want to know, then try hanging around more when he's spending time with them. Once you are sure though, you HAVE to do something about it. You can't just ignore it, IF that is what's going on. Kids being molested messes them up pretty bad, and if you know about it (for certain) and don't speak up... you are just as bad. Check it out. That way, either you can ease your mind and move on, if it turns out to be unfounded, or you can handle this appropriately.

  • krinkn
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    Accusing someone of being a pedophile (child-lover) is the most serious accusation you can bring against someone in our society today. Nothing else causes so much damage to a person's reputation. It is very very serious and has life-long consequences.

    If you are going to make such an accusation against your brother be ready to back it up with serious reasons. Just "always with kids" isn't enough. Have you seen him touch children inappropriately? Has he molested you? Does he talk or act suggestively to children? Be prepared to answer these questions.

    I suggest you discuss this with a family member first. Mother, father, aunt, grandmother - someone whose judgment you trust. If you don't trust any of these guys consider bringing it up with an adult you trust, teacher, counselor, minister.

  • 1 decade ago

    You defiantly need to put a stop to this if he is. Make sure that you have some proof (spy, snoop, whatever you have to do) and then take appropriate measures. I feel badly for you, it has to be difficult thinking that your brother is capable of such an atrocious act, but I am happy that you are putting the well being of children first. Good luck and God bless.

  • 1 decade ago

    How do you know for sure? How does he act around them? What kind of kids, are they family or kids on the street? Maybe he just likes being around kids. Maybe he wants to be a dad one day. I love kids especially my nephews and neices (well I hate spoiled, bratty kids that are just annoying and dont listen), they think I am great uncle. I want to have kids one day, I think I will make a great dad lol.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Just bc he is always with kids doesnt mean he is a phedophile. Maybe he is just good with kids.

  • 1 decade ago

    Good luck. Kids meaning? Under 18? Under 21? Tell him it makes you uncomfortable.

  • 1 decade ago

    What is he doing? If he is alone with them in private, I would be suspicious, but you better be sure, if you are wrong and report him it could ruin his life and your relationship with him, but if something is going on you need to talk to someone, your mom, dad, someone who knows about this kind of behavior, have you talked to the kids he is around and see what they say ?

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