My son (2 years 9 months) beats the crap out of my older daughter (6). Every single he does ANYTHING, he goes in a gated time out - as does she if she hurts him. A little smack on the butt doesn't get your point across. You have to make sure she knows her consequense is going to suck if she does this. If she's 2 and a half, you can tell her simply ONE time, "if you hurt your brother, you're going in time out." NEVER say that again, and no more warnings. When she hurts him in any way, pick her up (not out of anger, stay calm) and place her in a small, empty gated area, do not make eye contact, and let her sit there screaming, and when she's done, take her out and ask her what she did wrong. When it happens again, same process.
All behaviors get worse before they get better, so expect for her to hit him much more often when you start. And remember, no more warnings, and don't react, just place her in a time out.
Make she you include her with the baby. Make it a huge deal that you NEED her help in getting a diaper, or anything else that she can do. Let her help feed the baby, and if you're breastfeeding, let her cuddle with you and the baby. I know it's hard, but try to spend some time without the baby, even if it's just during a short nap. Pick at least one time during the day when you put the baby down to play with your daughter. No dishes, no cleaning, nothing except playing with your daughter.
Single mom of 2 special needs children
· 1 decade ago