I think it is very important to make this distinction: Not all "antis" have "personal problems." It has been my experience that most people who leave the Church do so not because somebody hurt them, or because they were sinning, but because they found out information about the Church that disqualifies it from the title of "One True Church."
Granted, there are SOME former members that see trends in member behavior that seems to translate into mistreatment by their families. One or two isolated cases can be dismissed as "The Church is perfect, but the members aren't;" however, when you see a particular behavior predominant in one faith and not in others, it begs the question of "Is there a causal relationship here?" In some cases, and with some "personal problems," the Church does indeed need to share some element of responsibility. For instance, when Brigham Young taught blood atonement from the pulpit and advocated it within the leadership of the Church, he needed to accept partial responsibility when faithful regional & local leaders exercised this blood atonement on a passing wagon train from Arkansas. This acceptance never came, and still hasn't come, just as acceptance of other faults will likely never come.
That being said, just because someone has a great distaste for the Church and goes out of his/her way to advocate his/her opinion to others, that does not mean that the person has any personal problems to deal with. It just means that he/she is so passionate about his/her beliefs that he/she wants to share the joy of them with others who have not experienced it yet. It's very similar to what LDS people would call being a "member missionary."