I had the same problem, and for ages I felt like I was carrying the world on my back. Broken relationships, cheating boyfriends, malicious friends, household arguments - it was all there.
I know I can't relate to the pain of a break up after so long, but I can understand at least a part of how you're feeling.
One day I went for a long walk alone, and instead of hiding the memories, and the painful things as I usually did I let them all flow into my head. Memoires, my fears, the demons I faced down every day. I just sat and thought about them.
In the end I let them go. I realised that things hurt, things change, relationships come and go. But I realised I didn't want it to eat away at every hour I ever had.
It took a long, long time. But in the end I never forgot the past or what I was worried about, but I was able to come to terms with the fact that it was just the way things were, and I couldn't change it, but hey, I was ok in the end.
The memories are still there, sure, and I still fear that by boyfriend will cheat, like the others did, that this man I love so much will leave me, like the other did, but I know that I am strong enough to come through it, and yes, life does go on, and thank goodness for it!
Thats how I deal with things. I guess everyone is different, and how you deal with it is different too, but talk about it to friends, people you trust. A therapist maybe. Just learn that there's nothing to fear from the past - its over!
My own experience
· 1 decade ago