Child support & termination of parental rights for the state of Indiana?
Ok, here goes! My kids are 7 & 10. There "dad" is ordered child support that he hasn't paid in 3 years & 3 months, over $15,000! The only time he has seen them in this time is when his mom picked them up to have them for holidays. His mother passed awayin March, so we've not heard anything from anyone in his family now! His cell phone that I used to be able to reach him on was paid for by his mom, so he no longer has it either! He has a warrant for not paying, but noone can find him. Family support won't go back to court until he's picked up on it! He works for cash so we can't trace him! His sister says he moved to Grand Rapids, Michigan, but she has no info (right!). He's living with his girlfriend so everything is in her name! Guess what, no one knows her last name (yeah right!). We offered him to sign over rights so my husband can adopt but he "loves" them to much! HAHA! I feel like I've exhausted all of my options! Anyone else have any ideas! Thanks!
- Anonymous1 decade agoFavorite Answer
well, there is not much you can do about the signing over his rights so that your new hubby can adopt.... unless you put on SO MUCH HEAT HE FEELS THE NEED TO SIGN....
to be quite blunt, your going to have to be VERY pro active in this hunt for the deadbeat. caseworkers are over loaded with cases (deadbeats;millions of them), so you need to pull rank and put on some heat.
well the honor system doesnt work, thats been proven. its also why the state and federal government passed stronger laws for child support; they are TIRED of people not paying for their children.
the arrears still keep adding up.
1) call your caseworker and ask:
--request an enforcement hearing.
--where you apply for interest on the arrears?
--was the case submitted for tax refund intercept?
--was the arrears reported to the credit reporting agencies yet?
--ask why they have not taken his drivers license away yet?
--ask why they have not put liens on his bank accounts yet?
--ask why there has not been a warrant issued yet?
2) sit down and write a letter. in it, give your contact info, case number, his info, arrears amount, the problem and ask them what they are doing about it.
keep the letter short, its more effective that way.
then take that ONE letter and FAX it to the following:
a) BOTH your states Attorney Generals (link is below)
b) BOTH your states Governors (link is below)
c) BOTH your states Regional FEDERAL Child Support Office (link is below)
phone calls are useless; they are ignored, denied and forgotten. mail ends up on someones "to do" pile, but FAXES are effective. its proof you sent it and proof they recieved it, therefor, they HAVE to address it. if you cant find a fax number (most are listed online) then just call them and ask for it.
if you hear nothing in a week, fax them again. fax them weekly if need be. its the squeaky wheel that gets the oil, if ya know what i mean. WHO CARES if you miff ‘em off, just keep at them until the problem is addressed.
3) Report his azz to the IRS (in writing), for he’s supporting himself, somehow. Tell them you strongly suspect him working under the table to avoid a child support order.
4) Report his azz to the Social Security Office if he’s been using others SS#.
5) post his DEADBEAT FACE on a DEADBEAT SITE online.
some links for you; just click on your state and find the subject you need.
LONG ARM ACT (UIFSA) for INTERSTATE
CHILD SUPPORT CALCULATOR
YOUR STATES CS POLICY AND STATE SITES & OFFICES
ABANDONMENT (NO SHOW PARENTS)
NOT ALL PARENTS LOVE THEIR CHILDREN
And "RATIONAL LIES"
FREE LEGAL HELP IN YOUR STATE
(just click on your state to find contact info)
LAWS and INFO
http://law.onecle.com/new-jersey/ (change the state to yours)
(and background cks to find them)
REGIONAL FEDERAL CHILD SUPPORT OFFICES
FACTS AND REGIONAL FEDERAL CS OFFICE INFO
SSI AND DISABILITY
FOR CHILD SUPPORT
FIND YOUR REPS
CHILD SUPPORT LIEN NETWORK
(some states work with them)
REPORT DEADBEATS (AND EMPLOYERS)
WORKING UNDER THE TABLE
(in writing, to your local and federal IRS offices)
REPORT A DEADBEAT USING OTHERS
SS# TO AVOID CHILD SUPPORT or FILING TAXES
WITH OTHERS SS#
- peggin_beastLv 61 decade ago
This father of your children sounds like a complete loser! So why put so much energy into a loseing cause?
You sound real bitter. I can see why, but if your remarried happy, just let this loser stay lost and gone!
Go get a job. Put some of this money back and save it to hire a invetagator. IF in the future you find out he's remarried, you can legally have her wages with held for any support due the children. IF he doesn't get married, well, you'll at least know where he is and sick the cops on his tail and have him arrested. There are other companies out there besides our own lolly gagging home court systems who don't give a **** about our children, and look them up and have them do all the investigating for you. You have internet access so use it to your advantage!!
- 1 decade ago
I'm going through something very similar right now too. Except the man will go and get his named changed and i don't know what it is now.
I believe in the state of wisconsin you can put a legal notice in the paper and give him so long to respond and if he doesn't than someone else can adopt him. It's worth a try
- ?Lv 45 years ago
I think yes. Giving up rights is not the same as having no responsibility. For example, if I were to renounce my US citizenship (something I would never do BTW) and sign a document giving up all my rights as a citizen, do you think I could get away with running red lights? not paying taxes? Of course not. Giving up rights only means you have no say, legally, in certain matters, it does not obsolve you of obligations.
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- 1 decade ago
Hire a private investigator in Grand Rapids.
He is not concerned about the kids even though he is guilty for not being concerned.
When you find him. Offer him a solution that assuages his guilt and gives you what you want.
Pray really hard.Source(s): I gave my ex-wife furniture when she signed over the kids. I gave her a car she needed when she signed over something else.
- 1 decade ago
First... ask your case worker to go back to court so they know your babies' daddy isn't paying.
Second... contact your local office of Child Services. See their website for the office in your county. (www.in.gov/dcs/local_offices/index.html). Ask them how you can go about terminating his parental rights!
- 1 decade ago
Go to the county attorney,... and to the child support division,... thats the only thing that helped me.