Would my girlfriend be considered abusive?


any time i dont act the way she wants, she curses at me or acts evil.

she has flipped out on me for having other girls besides her on my myspace/facebook top friends.

she threatened to break my PSP if she found as much as swimsuit pics on it.

she threatened to break up with me over seeing a movie with hot girls in it.

she forced me to end contact with most of my female friends because "she dosent like them"

she always has to know where I am or who i'm talking to on the phone.

if she even *thinks* im attracted to someone else, i wont hear the end of it

she has threatened suicide multiple times, and has slit her wrists in the past because of our arguments, and her jealousy.

If i threaten to leave/take space, she makes me feel guilty because she has so many problems id leave her with, or threatens she'll be worse when i come back.

when she says something out of line, she makes me drop it, no matter how evil/low it is.

I still love her though, but is she abusive?


I have done nothing to make her distrust me, and i've been loyal ever since we began dating.

20 Answers

  • 1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    she's not abusive, she just has lots of problems. She's very paranoid you'll cheat on her (which you haven't) and it sounds like she's depressed enough to threaten sucuide. please help your girlfriend, if nothing else. she needs to see a therapist.

  • 1 decade ago

    Abusive is not the word I would use.

    This girl is seriously messed up. She has massive insecurity issues and can't accept even the possibility of competition. She's self destructive, and down right paranoid. She really should get professional help. She's making things difficult for you to be sure, but her behaviour is not what would typically be called abusive. If you can, get her to start seeing a counsellor. The suicide threats and self mutilation alone are reason enough.

  • Ok I don't even have to read this to say that you arein a controling relationship. SHe wants to rule over you and make to do what she wants. This is only going to cause more stress to you. You are wasting your time with her. She isn't respect you as a person but as a play thing. Just a doll she can tell what to do. Her being worse when you comeback. Well let me tell you somehting, it will proably be good for both of you if you break up with her. She will learn that she can't controla relationship and you get a stess relif. Best of luck.

  • 1 decade ago

    Dude, yes she is SERIOUSLY OVERREACTING. Get her some Mental help, and if she keeps this up just break up with her. So what if she makes you feel guilty? Thats a definate sign shes a bad match, when someoen uses the feeling of guiltiness aginst anoither person. Tell her to LAY OFF!

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  • Sue F
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    Wow, that's a long and frightening list. Controlling, abusive, and threatening suicide.

    This young lady needs serious psychiatric help now. You need to get help for her and then decide if you are willing to live in such a bad situation.

  • 1 decade ago

    Sounds like she has some really bad issues involving relationships and threatening or trying to commit suicide she really needs some help ASAP.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    sounds like your gf has a lot of baggage and probably had most of it before you got together. i understand that you care for her, you really don't need to deal with that kind of stuff. people like her thrive off the attention they get when they act out in the way she is. nothing is your fault. she's extremely insecure and needs a counselor, not a boyfriend.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    ok, um why are you with her?? that **** isn't healthy, yes this is abusive!! you shouldn't be sabotaging your life over her. people like that need to be in special care. maybe you love her, but it's more like pity which only makes her weaker- it's your decision, but i don't advise you to keep seeing her. talk to her calmly and get professional help, she's very possessive of you and possibly because of family problems, notify an adult in authority that you trust and help her, and i think you're wayyy too young to deal with this emotional bagage- dating should be about fun, but try to remain her friend becaue she needs you. good luck!

  • 1 decade ago

    She sounds like a 1 woman freak show!!!

    She sounds abusive and controlling and she obviously has alot of issues and perhaps mental problems.

    Leave and dont look back.

    Run far, far away form this one.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    honestly, she sounds a little weird .

    i think that you could do better, don`t you ?

    & noo, she doesnt seem abusive, just obsessive .

    its obvious that she`s obsessed with you, because of everything you`ve said . So why would you want someone like that in your life ? doesn`t it just make you depressed & mad all the time ?

    I think that you should just finish that relationship, & start one with a girl that would make you happy, & thats not totally obsessed over you . you know ?(:

  • 1 decade ago

    what the hell are you still doing with this chick. i'm sorry but if a guy was las controlling as she is than his azz would've been gone a long azz time ago. its not heathy and its only going to depress you. wish you the best of luck

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