How do I talk to a girl about sex, without sounding hopelessly desperate?

I'm a virgin and a close friend of mine is a virgin as well. She keeps telling me things like:

"I'm tired of being a virgin."

"I want to have sex with someone I feel comfortable with...I feel comfortable around you."

- etc.

How the hell am I supposed to respond (smoothly), without sounding too desperate? And how do I initiate sex?

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    thats hot! You don't need to say anything! Just make a move. She will respond, I promise! Just remember to go slow, girls need time.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Actions speak louder than words.

    She is CLEARLY telling you she wants to have sex with you. Because of this you actually don't have to say anything at all.

    If you want to have sex with her, I'd make some time where you two can be alone, get everything ready before hand (i.e. condoms, place to do it, etc.) and then when you're together just go for it.

    Move in for a kiss. If she resists, just ask her "isn't this what you what you wanted?" If she doesn't resist, well congratulations you're going to have sex.

    But I would definitely recommend NOT using words or asking for sex. Just go for it. You don't need words in this situation and it'll be way sexier if you don't ask. She's already said she wants to have sex with you. Go for it!

  • 1 decade ago

    Virgins....Your wise to keep your virginity at a young age. It sounds from my prospective this girl might like you. I think that you should sit down with her and tell her your feelings. In your head answer these questions

    *Do I want to get intimate with this girl, even if I risk loosing a friendship?

    *Do I have the same feelings for her, as she might have for me?

    My advice is to talk to her. I think that she might need someone to talk to. She might want attention or just someone to be close to her.

    I think that what you should do is talk to her and be close to her.....without having to loose your virginity for her sake.

    Good Luck.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    If you want to remain chaste just tell her. If you want to go further ask her how she would feel about it and discuss the ramifications before you do anything drastic. Sex really changes a relationship- you can never go back to not having had sex with that person so just go slow.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    well i think she wants to have sex with you & this is her way of telling you that ... you should get closer to her & try to know her better,make her feel confortable with u make her laugh & at the right time say that your a virgin too & you would like to lose your virginity with her...

  • 1 decade ago

    just say i am tired of being a virgin too and i feel comfortable with you too

  • lana s
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    If you aren't married, there shouldn't be anyway.

    That would be so great to both be virgins if you marry.

    Don't initiate sex, leave it alone for now.

  • 1 decade ago

    She says - "I'm tired of being a virgin."

    "I want to have sex with someone I feel comfortable with...I feel comfortable around you."

    Then you say "Then let's go have sex!!!"

    DUHHHHHH

  • 1 decade ago

    Good case for disaster, or children.You have to care for the person.Nothing wrong will being a V it's really only a word.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    She's given you the opening to at least say that you feel the same way too. Start there.

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