Why are people so self-depreciative?

I've noticed, more and more lately, that people are very self-depreciating. When an individual is given a compliment, 90% of the time s/he is more apt to say "Oh no blah blah blah" than just "Thank-you." Why have we as a society somehow equated confidence with arrogance and self-degredation with modesty?

I've noticed also that it seems to be mostly girls who do this.

Anyone have a suggestion as to why this could be and how it began?


Amen Jethrooo

7 Answers

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    We have whipped the woman's lib degeneration back on track, a woman has to be humble when asked, a whore when demanded, a 3* chef de cuisine when your buddy's come for football and a patient Saint when it comes to rearing the kids.And we'll have the techniques to have any cute blonde just dripping to wet your dock.

    Is that to much to ask for?!

    we learned from our bro's

    did I just say that?

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    People are so self deprecating because they know they`ll never be as great as me. In the words of the immortal Penfoldius Goberatum Boguees

    "I`m not an arrogant person. Those morons who think they are as good as me need to take a look at themselves"

    as opposed to TylerDudanius Rantifactus who said

    "Every morning I look in the mirror and I think , there`s a reliable disappointment"

    Late edit : Fe Fi Fo Fite, I think I can hear Barry White.

  • 1 decade ago

    I do this frequently for one of two reasons.

    Either I am trying to be modest and downplay it because it makes me uncomfortable.

    As far as why I can only speak to my own situation.

    I grew up in a home that could be generally characterized as cold and distant. As a result of this I find it hard to express affection in any form. It is difficult to give or receive a compliment so when I receive one I immediately tense up and attempt to deflect it.


    To me any my circle of friends it is a good humor technique, rather than making fun of other people you just do it to yourself.

    I don't have any deep thoughts about this one.....its just funny!

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    well baby ,

    being a man this to me seems easy

    instead of just straight across the table eye contact

    women have had to endure alot of incredebly inate bullshit

    this is the mans trip

    whatever must be said for the elusive male sancuary

    the vagina

    this is the reason , that i dont hang with men

    all my friends are women

    because i know the mans trip

    and as far as women are concerned

    its not good.

    besides if your gonna hang out with friends

    women are alot nicer to look at


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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Because most women are taught to be modest and bashful(traits that I find excrutiatingly annoying), whereas guys are taught to be macho and proud. I too, hate it when you compliment someone on something and they're all, "Who me? Aw shucks!"

    Also, sad and insecure people tend to embrace self-depracating people. If a girl is confident(not conceited), people are all, "Oh, she thinks she all that", but if she hates herself, or picks on herself, then everyone wants to be her friend. That's how it is, unfortunately.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Because people have Stop Doing this!!!

    1.Each morning upon rising, and each evening before sleeping, give thanks for the life within you and for all life, for the good things that Wakan Tanka ---Creator has given you and for the opportunity to grow a little more each day. Consider your thoughts and actions of the past day and seek for the courage and strength to be a better person. Seek for the things that will benefit others (everyone).

    2.Show Respect. Respect means “To feel or show honor or esteem for someone or something; to consider the well being of, or to treat someone or something with deference or courtesy.” Showing respect is a basic law of life.

    o-Treat every person from the tiniest child to the oldest elder with respect at all times.

    o-Special respect should be given to Elders, Parents, Teachers, and Community Leaders.

    o-No person should be made to feel “put down” by you; avoid hurting other hearts as you would avoid a deadly poison.

    o-Touch nothing that belongs to someone else (especially Sacred Objects) without permission, or an understanding between you.

    o-Respect the privacy of every person, never intrude on a person’s quiet moment or personal space.

    o-Never walk between people that are conversing.

    o-Never interrupt people who are conversing.

    o-Speak in a soft voice, especially when you are in the presence of Elders, strangers or others to whom special respect is due.

    o-Do not speak unless invited to do so at gatherings where Elders are present (except to ask what is expected of you, should you be in doubt).

    o-Never speak about others in a negative way, whether they are present or not.

    o-Treat the earth and all of her aspects as your mother. Show deep respect for the mineral world, the plant world, and the animal world. Do nothing to pollute our Mother, rise up with wisdom to defend her.

    o-Show deep respect for the beliefs and religion of others.

    o-Listen with courtesy to what others say, even if you feel that what they are saying is worthless. Listen with your heart.

    3.Respect the wisdom of the people in council. Once you give an idea to a council meeting it no longer belongs to you. It belongs to the people. Respect demands that you listen intently to the ideas of others in council and that you do not insist that your idea prevail. Indeed you should freely support the ideas of others if they are true and good, even if those ideas are quite different from the ones you have contributed. The clash of ideas brings forth the Spark of Truth. Once a council has decided something in unity, respect demands that no one speak secretly against what has been decided. If the council has made an error, that error will become apparent to everyone in its own time.

    4.Be truthful at all times, and under all conditions.

    5.Always treat your guests with honor and consideration. Give of your best food, your best blankets, the best part of your house, and your best service to your guests.

    6.The hurt of one is the hurt of all, the honor of one is the honor of all.

    7.Receive strangers and outsiders with a loving heart and as members of the human family.

    8.All the races and tribes in the world are like the different colored flowers of one meadow. All are beautiful. As children of the Wakan Tanka---Creator they must all be respected.

    9.To serve others, to be of some use to family, community, nation, and the world is one of the main purposes for which human beings have been created. Do not fill yourself with your own affairs and forget your most important talks. True happiness comes only to those who dedicate their lives to the service of others.

    10.Observe moderation and balance in all things.

    11.Know those things that lead to your well-being, and those things that lead to your destruction.

    12.Listen to and follow the guidance given to your heart. Expect guidance to come in many forms; in prayer, in dreams, in times of quiet solitude, and in the words and deeds of wise Elders and friends.


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