I don't know why women always assume that a man watching porn has something to do with them. A man can be perfectly happy with the woman that he's with and still want to view porn. It has nothing to do with the woman he's currently seeing. Why does he still want to watch porn? Who does it have to do with? I'm not sure... I can't really answer those questions for someone else, all that I can tell you is why I think I still want to watch porn even though I'm in a satisfying sexual relationship with my wife.
I've been married for a little over two years now to a woman who I've known for a long, long time. Before we got married I used to use porn as a tool for sexual release. I have gone for long periods of time without a sexual partner and this was my only means of getting that release during those times. I had done it so long that it has been hard for me to stop, even though I have a great sex life now. My wife has expressed her displeasure with this and I have vowed to stop, even though I have, from time to time, secretly viewed porn behind her back (an issue of trust for her that we've fought over)...
I don't know what to say about why I still want to look at porn. I love my wife, find her very attractive, and am very satisfied with her sexually. I just find it easier to masterbate sometimes. Sex is great, sex it fun, and sex is wonderful... but sex is also a lot of work. And there's a whole lot of stress that comes along with it sometimes (maybe most of the time). I'm always worrying about her needs, her feelings, her satisfaction... I'm worried that she'll find what I want to do gross or disgusting- or maybe just plain boring. I worried that I'll just be no good... so I try hard, and I try harder, and I try until I can't try no more. This all can take hours... that may sound great- sex for hours! But as great as it may be sometimes, it's also a lot of work, and a giant physical and emotional drain. All that I want sometimes is that quick release and then to be done with it, no one else to worry about and nothing else to do buy please myself and get on with the rest of my day (or night). It's just so much easier sometimes.
But why the porn? Why can't I just use my wife for that? It's true, I have used my wife from time to time for the quick release that I've talked about; and she says its fine, no big deal- but how many times over how many years can you do this without reprocussions? How many times can I get off without worrying about her and still not have her think that I only think about myself? Porn takes that question away. Like I said, there is no one else to worry about.
My wife worries about all the other women in the porn... that if it was just naked pictures of her that I was looking at, that'd be fine. But for some reason that's just not enough. Why? I don't know... men like variety I guess. It's incredibly boring looking at the same picture over and over again... so I keep looking for different pictures of different women until I find something that strikes me and I go with that. Should I bother my wife with posing for pictures every time that I'm in the mood to look at something? How much of a pain would that turn out to be? Even if she agreed to it at first, it would get old real quick.
What it all boils down to is this women: it has nothing to do with you (sometimes it might, though, everybody is different). Men just need things sometimes that even we can't explain or even begin to understand. As long as we don't cheat on you, or treat you any differently... why not let us look at a little porn now and again?
Of course I could be wrong about all of this, he could be a porn addict- and then so could I. All of this could just be me making excuses... I just fail to see if I'm happy with her and she's happy with me.... why does anything else matter?