You could go to a dancing school, I suppose, but it seems to be an expensive way to learn. Plus, don't you already have your platter full, with your studies in college? Why go to dancing school in addition to college? If you do that, then when will you ever find time to go to the clubs? If you MUST go to a dancing school then I would recommend that you go to the Dancing School of Hard knocks. That's what I did, and it worked! So then, do this instead:
The very first thing you need to do is to get over your insecurity. Don't WORRY about what other people think of you too much, when you are on the dance floor! If they don't like the way you dance, screw 'em! Nobody is forcing them to watch! Let them turn their eyes elsewhere, if they don't like what they see. That's what I do! When you go to the clubs, watch other people dance. Watch everyone dance, but expecially the best dancers. Learn and remember which moves work (the moves look good and go well together) and which moves aren't so good. Remember the good moves, and add them to your repertoire. Use every part of your body to dance, not just your feet. You want to have the widest possible variety of good moves, used in the best possible combination. Dancing should be a form of artistic expression. Done properly, it can be used as a sexual turn on for the ladies. In fact, dancing can be a way to express yourself sexually. It just has to be done is such a way that you don't come across as a pervert or a jerk. The trick here is to put out good vibes to those around you. In the privacy of your home, play some music and practice your dance moves by yourself. Practice them in front of a mirror, so that you can get some visual feedback as to how you look when doing the moves. Add any new moves that you learn and that you like, when you can.
To be a good dancer, you need several things. You need to have good rythym, a variety of moves, some imagination, and to be uninhibited. Shyness is a killer! It can kill your party time. Don't worry too much about making an *ss out of yourself. If you do, then, this too shall pass! It helps if you have "character", or "personality" that you can add to the mix. That is, if you can be a bit flambouyant, a little sassy, with a bit of an attitude, provocative, have charisma, and so on. Good dancing skills, and the prerequisite self confidence can be developed with practice and experience, over time. Patience and a strong desire to excel are helpful. When combining all of these things, you also want to be perceptive - aware of your surroundings. You want to dance in the best possible atmosphere/setting. Otherwise, don't dance. Simply wait for a more opportune time. Be selective about when you will dance, which particular songs you will dance to, and with whom you will dance. So then, the right songs are playing for your style of dance, the size and mood of the crowd, the mixture of males versus females, the reaction of other people to you and the way that you dance, the management style of the club owner (some are stricter than others, but others are more relaxed), all of these are important factors to consider when making your decision to get out on that dance floor! Only dance to songs that you really like a lot. The music should give you a burning desire to get up and dance! If you are a show off, this can be helpful, if you use it to your advantage. To be a good show off, you need to be experienced, successful, and confident at it. I combine all of the above mentioned things, and add a little bit of "lubrication" to the mix. That is, the right amount of alcohol (not too little, not too much) can be helpful in moving things along when in a club environment. If you are dancing in a club that has a live band, often the 2nd and 3rd set is when everyone is well lubricated enough to relax and have a good party time. Dress well. Get clothes that will compliment and add to your persona. Have fun. Don't just get out on the dance floor, and be like so many others. Too often, you see a bunch of people with maybe only 4 or 5 moves, repeated over and over, dancing mindlessly. Boring! They are going through the motions with the few moves that they have. If you go to clubs that have live bands, become good friends with the bands that you like. Buy that guitar player, singer, drummer some beer from time to time. If you are friends with some bands, their charisma can rub off onto you after awhile, plus you can learn a thing or two, like how to have a rock n roll attitude, some dancefloor psychology, learn about music, and other goodies.
My personal experience. I have years of experience dancing in clubs, and I am considered to be an excellent dancer. I have learned by watching and doing. I have learned all kinds of bar room tricks from quite a few bands, in order to give me some charisma and charm, grace and style while out in the club scene, especially while on the dance floor. I have never been to any dancing school. I am entirely self taught. I have my own dancing style. It is freestyle. I often have people buy me free drinks simply because they like the way that I dance. I can also get into some clubs without having to pay any "cover charge" sometimes, when there is a live band playing there. I can get onto a dance floor that is empty or nearly empty, but then when I dance, it usually isn't empty for very long at all. I have been photographed by people - bands, photographers, other patrons - more times than I can count. I have lots of fun. I am a man, and often girls will approach me and ask me to dance, or else they will simply get out on the floor and just start dancing with me. Dancing is a great way to meet people of the opposite sex, if you are good at it.
· 1 decade ago