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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsOther - Family & Relationships · 1 decade ago

How can I help my guy about his impotency?

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Impotency is a very vague term. He may be a normal man, who has a very bad experience of sex, making him impotent psychologically. Help him with yours encouraging remarks during sex. If little bit erction is there, help that erection with yours acts. Never ever show to him that he can't satisfy you. Once his fear is over, he will be more active. If it is medical, then better take him to a Doctor.

    Top 10 Ways of Identifying a Low-Libido Partner

    Here’s my TOP 10 ways to identify a Low Libido (LL) person…

    First off, the odds of landing a LL guy or a guy who will have a

    substantial low libido problem at some point in your relationship is

    about 20%, which is way higher than most folks think. This is based on

    some of the research I’ve read. Sorry I don’t have the citations, but

    check the Journal of Marital and Family Counseling for starters.

    FYI, the odds of landing a similarly LL wife (or one that will turn out

    LL) for the guys is 60% based on the same research. Give or take 5%.

    While predicting who is and who isn’t going to be LL is difficult, I

    have seen some common themes from being on the low libido board for 5+

    years. A Low Libido (LL) person typically:

    1. Has no time or inclination towards sexual topics, items or subjects.

    This could be porn, lingerie, certain T.V. shows, books, pictures, etc.

    It does nothing for them, or precious little. If this is true for your

    guy, beware. Double beware if they are turned-off and disgusted by any

    or all of the above. Porn is controversial, but guys are generally more

    accepting and responsive.

    2. Has no sexual fantasies. This is huge and consistent. Most of us,

    when we ask our LL spouses what their sexual fantasies are, they report

    that they don’t really have any. Or have very few or something very

    tame, like sex in a water bed or something. Not all fantasies have to

    come true (like three-somes) but sexually healthy people do have

    fantasies and have them on a regular basis. They don’t have to work on

    thinking about sex. To a high libido person, thinking and fantasizing

    are as natural as gravity.

    3. Thinking, talking and having sex is a chore. Generally, LL folks lose

    energy when they have to relate on a sexual level, and they tire of it

    easily and quickly. HL generally gain energy as the level of sexual

    tension increases. Sex increases the well-being of people with high

    sexual thresholds, and not having sex bothers and hurts them on many,

    many levels.

    4. Low libido people are generally easily and quickly satiated. Read an

    article below concerning LL from a sensory integration framework for

    more detail. In a nutshell, after having sex, the LL person will be

    satisfied for a longer period of time. They get irritated in a major way

    if they just finish having sex (meaning it was just an hour, a day, a

    week or even a month ago) and their partner tries to initiate again too

    soon. For HL folks, the more they have, the more they seem to want.

    5. The LL person will generally have more boundaries and limitations on

    sexual practices. There are a slew of us on here who have partners who

    refuse to have oral sex with us. Some are okay with giving and more are

    okay with receiving, but it is almost universal that our LL partners

    will have some aversion to oral sex in some way. Or in any way, as in

    the case with my wife. The absence of variety and kinkiness may relate

    to the dearth of a fantasy life for LL people. 69ing is not a regular

    component of the menu for any of us HL CL folks.

    6. Kissing. There are a bunch of us who have partners who refuse to give

    us open-mouthed or long, deep, passionate kisses. If your fiance isn’t

    looking for your tonsils (in apparent sexual frustration) I’d be

    concerned. But that’s just me.

    7. Initiating. This is also a sore spot, as most HL people on this board

    complain that if they don’t initiate, nothing is going to happen. Or

    they have given up, simply because they have been turned down so often.

    The LL partner generally initiates on an infrequent basis, if at all.

    8. Talking about sex is different. The LL partner generally talks about

    "giving it up" or "giving the person sex" or "giving in", and refers to

    the other partner as the one "getting it" as in "I just gave you some

    (last month), and I can’t believe you are interested in getting it

    again!" While the HL person may use similar language, such as "Pleeeze?!

    Can I pleeeeze have a little somethin’?" They are more likely to refer

    to it as a shared experience. The HL partner’s fantasy includes being

    with someone who truly enjoys being with them, finds them sexually

    exciting, really, really wants to jump their bones and responds with

    lust, desire and passion. All of these components indicate a more shared

    experience from the HL standpoint. Our partners frequently view it from

    the standpoint of enduring it and wanting to get it over with.

    9. Sex is not worth the effort. Often there are many obstacles to having

    sex, including work, schedules, physical stress, children, intramarital

    tensions and other factors that make sex a goal that seems far away. For

    the LL person, there is a very finite amount of energy that should be

    expended towards sex. If there are conflicts or obstacles, sex quickly

    gets put on the back burner. Circumstances sometimes warrant this, but

    the HL partner will almost always find ways of overcoming or working

    around these obstacles. The LL person will allow circumstances control

    and ultimately crowd out time, energy or thoughts of sex. They are often

    too tired for sex. The HL is more often too tired of NOT having sex!

    10. Hostility towards discussing the topic. Generally, the LL folks

    regard having to discuss the clashing libido issue as pressure, which

    leads to #9. They will generally avoid the subject and definitely avoid

    discussing the problem or deny that there is one at all. Included in

    this is shifting responsibility back to the other partner. The problem

    should be a shared concern, not just a matter of fixing one person or

    the other. Chances are, both partners have contributed and both need to

    be involved in mending the relationship.

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  • Anonymous
    6 years ago

    Impotency or Erectile Dysfunction is a problem in which a man unable to maintain the erection at during intercourse. Having erection trouble from time to time isn't necessarily a cause for concern. But if erectile dysfunction is an ongoing problem, it may cause stress, cause relationship problems or affect your self-confidence.

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