The thing about identities is this, we choose our own labels. Don't let other people label you. I identify as both a d yke and a f ag. these have to do with my OWN internal dynamics and whatever dynamics fit those terms for me. I do not call other people fags unless they tell me that this is how they identify and wish me to identify them.
I love labels so long as I choose the ones I wear, what they mean, when and how I can stretch them out, change them, add to them, subtract from them, or discard them.
I am a fag and F*ck used to be used in reference to farming. Words change over time when people change them, because it is people who created their meaning in the first place, hense we have etymology, the study of the history of words. Words have history. They also have present, and presumably they have future if we create those.
Q ueer used to be an increadibly vile word. people used to play games like "smeer the q ueer" etc which was in reference to queer-bashing and little kids (myself included) used to play this game (i didn't know what it meant at the time)
Will I mind if a stranger calls me a f ag? Yes! I would mind if a person called me G ay. (I am queer, I am a f ag, I am not g ay. Identity is an intimate thing that I choose to define for myself. If we took just 11 categories of sex and gender and combined them as many possible ways that we could, according to pascals triangle, a mathmatical calculation system, we would come up with a minimum of 2,047 identity variations! I don't appreciate when people assume things about me and my own identity ^_~ There are so many more identities beyond gay, straight, and bi... ^_~)
A community I'm in has had similar conversations before about words like "Q ueer" "F ag"
Link below to the group. I'm not sure how far back that thread was but a person could always post another thread ^_~
· 1 decade ago