Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsSingles & Dating · 1 decade ago

Is this playing games?

I've shown interest in a girl by asking her out as a friend, but something legitimate has come up for her each time. I don't want to seem like a hound so I thought I would just keep it cool for a week or so then ask again, is this playing games or should I just pester her till she comes out with me or tells me to get stuffed?


Am I the one playing games by laying low for a week?

12 Answers

  • Dove
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer


    Backing off is not playing games, especially when it seems warranted. She needs space. I'd give her two weeks. Let her begin to wonder if she shouldn't make herself more available. Next time, when you ask her, just say, "I'd like to take you out. If you're interested, let me what works for you."

    This way, she can give you a day, on the spot, or she can say she needs to check and will get back to you. If she does the latter, she probably isn't interested. If that is the case, consider asking someone you wouldn't normally ask. Go out and have fun. You might surprise yourself!

    P.S. I give you a lot of credit for your guts and persistence.

  • 1 decade ago

    It might be that she is busy or it could also be her way of letting you down easy. Next time, just ask her to call you when she has the time to go out. This way you leave it up to her and it relieves you from asking her out again and taking the chance on feeling like a hound. If she does not ever call you, then this should tell you she is not interested and you have to accept this and leave it alone. Best of luck to you!

  • 1 decade ago

    Definitely don't pester. Just give it a little time and then ask again and if something comes up again just let her know that when she's free and decides she wants to go out she can give you a call. Don't waste your time waiting on her to become free. You don't want her to think that you are desperate.

  • 4 years ago

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  • 1 decade ago

    maybe suggest a couple of things to do a bit later on - like maybe ina week or 2. Or you could always ask her to suggest something.

    I wouldnt pester her too much, as she might feel uncomfortable and start to avoid you!

  • 1 decade ago

    The best way to handle this situation is straight forward. Just simply ask her if she doesn't wish to go out with you? It is simple straight to the point and you will know where you stand in only a few moments.. Good luck..

    Source(s): life experience
  • 1 decade ago

    If you like the girl give it time. If you think she's playing games ask her. Then she will think thats what you think. just be open with her. Then eventually the truth will come out. bad or good.

    Its a double edged sword. only one way to find out is ask her.

  • Kim
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    It's not playing games on your part. Go w/ your gut instinct wait like you said try again if something "comes up" again I'd move on to someone who would have more time for you.

  • 1 decade ago

    no, she sounds like she doesn't want to go out with you, but doesn't want to hurt your feelings. If you keep pestering her you are only going to end up really pushing her away. My advice is to stop pushing with asking her out.

  • Curly
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    If she seems genuinely interested, keep asking. You can give her the option to tell you if she is interested or not. Keep the communication lines open.

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