Men's gender and sexuality has been a victim of intense dirty politics for thousands of years. Ever since they decided to bind men into sex with women in order to boost reproduction beyond what happens under natural, normal circumstances.
In nature few males mate regularly. Most males mate once or twice in their entire life. And a big chunk of male population never mates with females at all. Excess of everything is bad, and nature does not want excessive reproduction.
So, men have been tied to sex with women (for reproduction) mostly through the mechanism of 'manhood' ------ by arbitrarily defining it as 'reproduction' and hence 'sex with women'.
The transgendered space which had always existed as an honorable/ dignified feminine male space, as a distinct third gender from both men and women,....... irrespective of whether these 'fems' liked women or men (they mostly liked women)......... was gradually turned into a punishment zone for men who failed the new manhood test (reproduction), after femininity in males was sufficiently denigrated, and feminine males who liked women were denied any social space or acknowledgement. Although no man was ever really thrown into this half-male/ half-female space, the threat was enough to make sure that men do not acknowledge their lack of interest in women, and if they really did not want it they would hide it behind socially valid excuses, such as spirituality/ celibacy.
The third sex space now became only the space for transgendered males who looked for promiscuous, receptive anal/ oral sex from men.
But men's sexuality for men was in itself never seen as different from men's sexuality for women, and it did not qualify men to be isolated together with the third sex. In other words it did not disqualify men from manhood.
This intense gender and sexual politicking created its vested interests that grew very powerful by the Middle Ages, especially after religion was invented. They tried to change the formal definition of manhood through redefining the gender spaces as sexual spaces ----- by defining men's gender as essentially one that craves for sex with women, and isolating the entire range of man to man sexuality into the non-men, third sex category together with the extremely denigrated trans-to-man sexuality..
However, since the men's spaces were very strong and man to man sexuality is the primary male sexual need, men protected their sexual bonds by taking them underground where it thrived under a strong male solidarity for two thousand years. Only the act of receptive anal/ oral sex was highly stigmatized since it was attached to the transgendered, denigrated third sex category. So if men indulged in it, it would be with someone they really trusted and they would never acknowledge it.
The modern western categories have not just sprung out of the blue. They are merely an extension of the traditional identities and concepts ------- an extension of the age old dirty politics of male gender and sexuality ------ an extension of the age old tussle between the vested interests on one hand and men's spaces on the other.
Heterosexualisation of men's spaces and homosexualisation of male to male bonds signal the final defeat of men's spaces.
What happened was that the vested interests became extremely powerful after the advent of science and industrialization. They got the resources and opportunity to reorganize social spaces. And they used it to destroy men's spaces by making them mixed gender and intensifying to the extremes the pressures of male to female sexuality.
The vested interests now became the 'forces of heterosexualisation' (FoH)
This weakened and finally broke the men's spaces and then only could the FoH isolate same sex bonds from there and throw it into the 'third sex' space.
It cleverly abused science to invent a mechanism which looks at things only as they appear on the surface ------- it was called 'sexual orientation'. They also redefined the men's space in terms of sexuality ------- heterosexuality, and the third gender space in terms of what they termed 'homosexuality'. while they only allowed non-trans male to female sexuality in the 'heterosexual' group,......... they deliberately confused the non-trans male to male sexuality with trans male to male sexuality which hinged on receptive anal/ oral sex.
Non transgendered males but who are sufficiently feminine and are primarily into receptive anal/ oral sex today form the backbone of the 'gay' identity. But the rest of the men's population just does not relate with the word 'gay', even if they have exclusive sexual need for men. This leaves the men no choice but to hide their sexuality for men behind a heterosexual identity.
There actually are hardly any men who are not feminine gendered and not into receptive anal/ oral sex who are comfortable with the gay identity. They may take it fooled by the definitions, but they are never comfortable with it. Many such men in the west are now looking to breakaway from the gays. So you have movements such as the g0y....... or those groups who oppose anal sex.
The definitions of sexual orientation, heterosexuality, and homosexuality are part of the dirty politics. They are wrong and invalid and need to be changed.
For a man to take on the 'gay' identity to express his sexual need for men is being a coward. The real men should unite and fight the forces of heterosexualisation ----- reclaim their male spaces and once again incorporate male sexual bonds as the essence of manhood.
· 1 decade ago