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Anonymous asked in Pregnancy & ParentingGrade-Schooler · 1 decade ago

What to do with a kid who will not behave?

I work at a school and need some advice. there is one kid who, when he get mad, will just lay on the floor and not move. i have 20 other kids i need to work with and get to the next class and i cant leave him alone or the other kids alone. this kid is in kindergarten and and is only 5 years old. im not allowed to pick him up or anything and i dont have an aid or anything that can watch him. please help im not sure what to do

Update:

alot of people saying talk to the parents. we have talked to his mom (single parent) and she dosnt know what to do.

also i for got to say this but its about 4:15 when he starts freaking out ( its an afterschool program) and hes been in school sence 7:30 and is going to be there till 5:00 or 5:30 also he is a shelter kid and so we cant kick him out (part of our funding rules) and if we did kick him out his mom would have to quit the job she has and that would mess up there living situation

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  • VW
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago
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    Isn't it sad that in todays society we are not allowed to hug a child or touch them in comfort? He is still young, too young in my opinion for Kindergarten. Have you had a talk with the parents? Where does the child go after school? Home to mom, or some daycare. He most likely has difficulty dealing with his emotions because he wasn't taught what to do with them. Anger issues are not uncommon even at that age. When my son (just turned 6) gets mad, he will stand with his arms crossed in front, pull down his lower lip and roll his eyes. I usually let him cool off for a minute or two. Then I stand in front of him and keep eye contact. I ask what's wrong. If he doesn't answer I tell him that I know he is angry and that's okay but that there are healthy ways of releasing anger. By talking about it for example. Tell him that you will listen to him. Acknowledge what he says and help him find a solution. Don't give him the solution, just help him think of one himself. He may just need an open ear and some understanding. I know that's a lot to ask of you. Plus, get the parents in asap.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Well, my best advice would be to talk with him...While the other children are in the room...ask him if he would like to go out into the hall and talk for a min...then leaving the door cracked so you can monitor the other children in the room talk to him. There might be something more going on then just what you know about. And if that still dosen't work...then give him a time out....get a chair sit it in the corner and make him sit in it for 5 min....if you can't get him to do that. Call the principle and have them come in and help....they can't expect you to handle 20 5 yr old on your own...that's crazyness!...Good luck with this. I hope that you figure out something that works!

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    Agian it sounds to me like he's acting out...Trying to get the one on one attention that I'm sure he's probably not getting much of at the shelter. Considering that I know if I was a single mom in that situation I would be freaking out trying to get things in order. Try seeing if you can give him a little one on one attention every now and then and see if that dosen't correct the problem. Sit down and talk to him..try to get him to talk to you and tell you what's up. 99% of the time kids don't just act out...for no reason. Figure out what it is. Could be as simple as there is a kid that won't include him...to something as complicated as the only time he gets that attention is when he acts out...so maybe he's getting used to it....agian Good luck with this issue!

    Source(s): Mother of 3 (4,3, and almost 2)
  • 1 decade ago

    I know this may sound silly but I have had a similar problem with my now 8 year old. He would have a complete melt down at the same time everyday. It took forever to figure out what his problem was. After 3 months, lots of talking (to me, to him and to a doctor), we found that he was hungry. When his blood sugar got to low, he melted! Try food! Not as a reward or taken away as a punishment but he could just be hungry. Every child is different and it could just be that simple!

    Good Luck!!

  • 1 decade ago

    Girl I feel for you, There has to be a way that you can talk to him alone and try to get on his good side. He may be wanting some attention but don't know how to get. There are ways you can get him to obey you. You just need to have a little more patients. Try to get him to sit by you when doing his school activities and ask him how his day went or how it is at home there maybe something going on at home and he is just acting it out at school, Well I hope this helps and good luck!!!

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Children do not misbehave or fail in school just to get attention. Behavior problems can be symptoms of emotional, behavioral or mental disorders, rather than merely attention-seeking devices. These children can succeed in school with understanding, attention and appropriate mental health services.

    Behavioral problems in children can be due to a combination of factors. Research shows that many factors contribute to children's emotional problems including genetics, trauma and stress. While these problems are sometimes due to poor parenting or abuse, parents and family are more often a child's greatest source of emotional support.

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    remember that this child is like that cuz he needs his dad

    and some how he shows that behavior because of this

    so try to get to him by knowing the real issue

    cheers

  • 1 decade ago

    This child is testing you and their limits. Take the children outside to the hallway and then tell him you are leaving. If you have a phone in the room, call up to the office or to the counselor's office and let them know that you must leave the room with your class and there is a child who refuses to go.

    When one of my students refused to leave the room one time, I walked down the hallway, stepping over the child as we left. As soon as we were just a few steps down the hallway, he was right there with us. They cannot get the attention if there is no one in the room, so they're likely to follow you.

    I hope this helps you!

  • 1 decade ago

    sounds like a regular immature 5 year old. Call his parents and school administration and set up a meeting. you don't need the disruption, and the parents need to understand you're not a baby sitter.

    if the parents don't take it seriously, take steps to expel the child. then maybe the parents will get it.

  • 1 decade ago

    I had the same problem with a child when I worked in a day care. Simply forbid him from an activity he loves if he refuses to move. Example: I had a kid do that and we were about to go outside for free time. Well, when I said that he jumped right up and lined up with the rest of them. I let them all walk outside and start playing, when he started playing I called him to me and had him sit beside me for the rest of the play time. I did this for a couple days and he quit after that.

  • 1 decade ago

    if you work at a school teaching children - then 1. you should have a support network at the school for this matter, and should be getting advice from the school as you need to follow guidelines for this behaviour

    2. you should have a better understanding of a childs behaviour and realise it is normal and the best thing is to leave him to it - reward positive behaviour and ignore negative.

    Source(s): 15 yrs running private nursery 0-5 yr olds, including SEN 1 child 1 on the way
  • 1 decade ago

    I'd talk to a school counselor, perhaps even contact the parents. His behavior is obviously disruptive, if not downright odd, and, for the sake of the rest of the class, it should be addressed.

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