Some men are attracted to BBW. There is a whole lot of variety out there in the world, and every body type a woman can possibly have is loved by SOME guy out there. Do you flirt with these type of guys, thinking that they're safe to flirt with? If not, it could just be that you're the type of BBW who feels comfortable for men to be around. Some women just have that - they are like comfort food for men in relationships. A female friend of mine attracts gay men to her like you attract committed men. They just feel comfortable and safe around her. She has no idea why, either. I'd say enjoy the flattery, enjoy the company, and get to know their friends. Guys who can commit often have single friends who can commit.