I have seven children. All seven of them were spanked when they stood toe to toe and eyeball to eyeball with me and dared me to take action. All seven of them have grown up to be respected by their peers and people older than them, and loved by those they meet. My wife and I have received many unsolicited comments from people in stores as we shop that our children are well behaved and respectful toward others.
We handle discipline this way. We first let our child know the reason for the discipline, we assure them that we don't like to use a paddle and it is equally stressful for us but that we love them enough to discipline them for the unacceptable behavior
and because we want them to grow to be godly children and then godly adults, we apply the spanking - I pray, "God give me the strength to give just what is needed. Not too little and not too much.", then after the spanking we assure our children
that we love them and hug them. As they get older we don't have to explain why the discipline is coming because they already know.
Here are some comments from my children given in notes to my wife and I -
Dad; Thank you for putting up with me for the last 19 almost 20 years. You are a wonderful father and noone will ever take
your place in my heart. I love you more than words could ever
express. Even though I say stupid things to you sometimes, you are a wonderful role model and I am so glad to be your son. Love always; Your son Richie
Mom and Dad; Happy 24th Anniversary! Thanx for putting up
with me for 22 of those years. I love you. Sam
Mom and Dad; Thank you for everything you've done for us and bringing us up the way a child should be raised. We love
you both very much! Your loving children; Sam, Chris, Richard, Kristine, Abigail, David and Sarah
Mom and Dad; We all love you both very much. We may get you frustrated sometimes, but we know you love us. The kids
Dad; We all prayed for you today. All of "are" family prayed for you.
Dear Dad; I love you dad forever and ever. From Kristine
can I use your sleeping bag?
Dear Dad; I hope you like this early birthday present. Thank you for being the best dad that there could ever be. I love you a big much! Chris
Dad; You mean so much to me! I love you a lot. You're an awesome dad! I praise God a lot for you. Chris
I have the front of my Bible full of these kinds of notes. By the way, the spankings were sometimes offset by mercy when a spanking was necessary.
The Bible tells me that spanking will deliver my children from Hell. I think that is pretty important! Wouldn't you?
I worked in ministries where there were children addicted to drugs and alcohol. Some of them were as young as 11 years
of age. Many of them told our staff members that they never had discipline in their home, and they believed their parents didn't love them because they didn't discipline them.
Discipline done in love and genuine concern will build good character in a child. The new age philosophy that spanking damages self esteem is a lot of quackery! Many people have
swallowed this lie hook, line and sinker. Perhaps if we have enough Columbine's and Virginia Techs, enough suicides, enough bratty cursing children, enough defiant rebellious kids
forming gangs and roaming our streets, enough children drunk and on dope, enough children robbing stores and banks, enough teen age pregnancies and abortions, and whatever else it takes to wake up parents to the need for discipline we will return to biblical principles of discipline.
I am thankful that God moved me from a drug dealing hippie to a parent that cared enough to raise my children in the nuture and admonition of the Lord. If you read the notes from my children above you will see that they are thankful too.
Doesn't that say anything to you?
EDIT: I FIND IT EASY TO BELIEVE THAT SOMEONE WOULD GIVE A THUMBS DOWN EVEN AFTER MY CHILDREN'S TESTIMONIES TO THE EFFECTIVENESS OF DISCIPLINE. FOOLISH PEOPLE AND OPINIONATED PEOPLE CANNOT STAND TRUTH EVEN WHEN IT IS STARING THEM IN THE FACE AND IS PROVEN FACT.