What is a fair visitation schedule?
for my 2 kids? Right now, I meet their dad half way( a 5 hour drive total) for them to spend a weekend. This is really wearing on me, as I also have a 2 year old, that has to accompany me, because my x always has to have it around his work schedule, which is during the hours my husband works. So, what is a fair schedule? How many times a month should I have to do this? What does everyone else do?
- abcLv 71 decade agoFavorite Answer
I'm surprised it wasn't documented in your divorce; 6 pm. on Friday to 6 p.m. on Sunday, every other weekend, every other holiday, two weeks in the summer....standard; it really isn't a issue as to what is fair for you and your ex; but what is fair to your children who need their dad in their lives.
- 1 decade ago
i think meeting half way is fair at least u dont have to drive the whole distance and as for the 2 year old i guess that just goes along with it as far as the work schedule i wouldnt go for that i have set times like 6 pm friday night to 6 pm sunday night and it would be left up to him to worry about his work schedule as far as driving unless u 2 can agree on something else i would say your stuck with that part
- Anonymous1 decade ago
It was the adults who put the kids in this situation.Your ex has got to make a living especially if he is paying child support.Since the kids belong to BOTH of you, it is fair you meet halfway unless you and your husband or your ex is willing to move.If the 2 yr old is not your ex's then have your husband to keep the 2 yr old while you take the others to meet your ex.
- OPTIMISTLv 41 decade ago
Wow, you are precious! What an amazing woman you are to make this trek so faithfully!
You might ask the children's pediatrician as to where to start in figuring this out for their benefit. This must be grueling on the children as well as their over-the-top patient mom. If you have a counselor the children have worked with or someone like that, you could start there.
Too bad their father is so far away, this is horrible on all of you. Maybe the father (now this is a dream) could actually drive to where you are and rent a motel or stay with a relative if at all possible, then the children wouldn't have to travel so far.
Just trying to think outside the box.
I sure send you warmest regards and hope everything turns out perfect. The children's father is so fortunate that you are who you are in a world full of selfish people.
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- 1 decade ago
Well, I would say fair would be meet in the middle. You have a computer so figure out where the middle is. And every other weekend is about right depending on the State you are in.
- cryerLv 44 years ago
Do you have a divorce decree with a parenting schedule? the guy who stated the dad might desire to in basic terms see their father as quickly as a month is loopy. teenagers desires honest quantities of time with each discern. many times while there's a huge distance between the non custodial discern and the custodial discern they're ordered to fulfill 0.5 way besides. you will possibly desire to flow decrease back to court docket and have a modification putting specific hours for him to have the youngsters. My step son lives 2 one million/2 hours (5 hrs around holiday) away I %. him up another weekend from 6 Friday till at last 6 Sunday. Is there somebody different then your ex that would desire to fulfill you at a time that works extra ideal for you? your little ones might desire to work out their dad a minimum of two times a month. i would be making my stress to get my step son with a newborn so i will comprehend that's tiring. Who moved interior the 1st place so a techniques away? Whomever moved might desire to be made to stress the better of the area. My husbands ex moved 2 one million/2 hrs away shall we make her meet us 0.5 way and might while the newborn is born yet on the instant i % to easily make the stress to keep away from conflict. Whats substantial is the newborn see's their dad no longer who has to make sacrifices. they did no longer ask to have divorced mum and dad. You and your ex made the alternative to chop up. Why might desire to they have constrained visits with their dad for the reason which you 2 do no longer % to be mutually. think of of whats ideal for them, positioned them first and your self final. a minimum of their dad is an energetic area of their life no longer many divorced women can that that their ex's pay help and have familiar visits.it extremely is area of parenting.
- kpLv 71 decade ago
Big factor in the equation--who created the distance? Who moved so far away that it requires 5 hours to drop off/pick up? You or Dad?
- Jan CLv 71 decade ago
This seems to be a pretty unfair situation especially since you have a toddler that you have to take too. I would tell him things aren't working out and ask him to do the travel at least most of the time. Good luck.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
he need meet you