I know there are many of us parents raising kids on our own. I have 2 sons with 2 fathers. My first sons father does not pay and I am constantly on the system for help. My second sons father only helps bear minimum. I know we all can think of constructive ways to push on the system for help. In illinois, the chils support law for 1 child is 20% of net. I dont know about you all but thats about my gas a week taking my sons to school, practices, boy scouts ect.
Please help me reach out- With all of us, some way some how we can be heard. 20% is nothing. Anyone have ideas, thoughts anything to share so we can actually move forward.
Before anyone gets negative opinions here- ive tried the joint custody thing- both have moved out of state. Complaining about getting anything at all- I understand alot of women dont- I HAVE 1 SON I GET NOTHING FOR- but its not the fact of being appriciative its the fact of what is right! I take responsibility for my kids. I take care of my kids. This is for single parents- men, women, whatever! There is something that needs to be done.
- Yvette B yvettebLv 61 decade agoFavorite Answer
there are ways of putting heat on the case... you just need to keep at 'em...weekly. miff 'em off
1) call your caseworker and ask:
--where you apply for interest on the arrears?
--was the case submitted for tax refund intercept?
--was the arrears reported to the credit reporting agencies yet?
2) sit down and write a letter. in it, give your contact info, case number, his info, arrears amount, the problem and ask them what they are doing about it.
then take that ONE letter and FAX it to the following:
a) your states Attorney General (link is below)
b) your states Governor (link is below)
c) your states Regional FEDERAL Child Support Office (link is below)
phone calls are useless; they are ignored, denied and forgotten. mail ends up on someones "to do" pile, but FAXES are effective. its proof you sent it and proof they recieved it, therefor, they HAVE to address it. if you cant find a fax number (most are listed online) then just call them and ask for it.
if you hear nothing in a week, fax them again. fax them weekly if need be. its the squeaky wheel that gets the oil, if ya know what i mean.
3) post his DEADBEAT FACE ON A DEADBEAT SITE ONLINE.
YAHOO SUPPORT GROUP
CHILD SUPPORT CALCULATORS
REGIONAL FEDERAL CHILD SUPPORT OFFICES
FACTS AND REGIONAL FEDERAL CS OFFICE INFO
SSI AND CHILD SUPPORT
FIND YOUR STATE REPS
CHILD SUPPORT LIEN NETWORK
(some states work with them)
WORKING UNDER THE TABLE
(in writing, to your local and federal IRS offices)
- 1 decade ago
Your complaining when there are women out there that get no support at all? I was a single mom after my divorce for almost 12 yrs to a special needs child. He gave me the court ordered amount of support which NEVER covered her medications and she at the time was only on 4 now she's on 9! My co pays for her medication is more then his child support and lets not go into her dr visits and hospital bills. So I say stop your damn bitching either get a better job, or a second job, ask that the support order be readjusted or find other ways to decrease your spending. If this sounds harsh I am sorry but its the truth. The next hospital bill I get with my insurance covering 80% and me owning close to 50,000 for my daughter who is terminally ill waiting on a new set of lungs I'll send it to you and you'll be damn greatful the amount you do get.
That all being said Im damn glad I was born into and married into money. There are always ppl worse off then you are remember that. Furthermore I do think parents should support their children 50-50 but thats kind of hard espeically when the parent without custody still has to be able to survive. If someone makes 2000 (before taxes)a month and 300 goes to child support the person still has mortage, insurance, gas, utilities, food maybe even a family to support and so forth so neither side wins.
- TinkLv 51 decade ago
My husband pays child support for 2 kids. When we married his ex tried to raise it because her kids were "worth more" even though he was already paying 33% of his take home pay to her. That ticked me off because I GOT child support from my ex and I would never raise it on him because I knew he had bills to pay and needed a nice place for the boys to go when they visited him. Its not all about you. If you were receiving support from both fathers I can't see that you would need more. Now I don't get anything at all from my ex because he found loopholes in a system that lets deadbeats slip through in Michigan. I feel if a woman needs more she needs to find another job. Raising children should not be a free ticket to live off child support and you should have learned that lesson after the first child with the first father. If he is already paying 20% of his income and so is the other man, that is 40% of someone's income, more than my husband has to pay and I think that is more than fair. The problem is not the amount, but the consistancy. Men should be forced to PAY, not pay more.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
awwww stacy, i really feel your pain sister. look, i'm not trying to sound like a "holy roller" or anything, please try prayer. God will get you through your hard ships. i amraising 2 kids, no help fromtheir dad except a little child su pport. it's tough. the best advice i got was get to the place where you can make it on your own, a good job, an education, whatever it takes. in some cases, this will mean welfare. it tookme several years, now iamable to use the child support money for things the kid need. used to be i had to use it for bills. good luck to you my friend. remember, you can do it. with God all things are possible. make a list of goals for your family and yourself.
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- 1 decade ago
Because this is a state rather than federal issue, contact your state representatives, the governor, lt. governor, and attorney general. Be specific in the wording you use to get more attention. Other than that you can have them jailed for not paying, but then how will they pay? It is a messed up system. My ex pays me once a month for the previous month rather than weekly. It makes it hard to budget because the amount is different and never comes at the same time.
- 1 decade ago
I wish they could raise it up more in Michigan too! I have 2 kids with the same father and I only get 100 a week for the both of them only 400 a month! Thats nothing I spend all my money on diapers, rent, food, clothes, etc. My ex claims that 400 is too much for him to pay but I think its nothing he should have to pay more for the two. I tried fighting the system too, but they always have you wait. I hate that! If you do get some good ideas or thoughts let me know too!Source(s): email@example.com
- 1 decade ago
Laws regarding all matters are made by State and Federal legistlators. You should write your state congressman and express your views. Laws only change when the parties who make them change them. Let your local leadership know how you feel. Most states periodically review their child support laws and the State Child Support Program normally lobbies for that. You might consider contacting your State Child Support Office and ask them when the next changes might occur.Source(s): Former NC child support enforcement agent..25 years experience.
- J DLv 51 decade ago
Why don't you just have joint custody with the fathers? That way they can pay when they have the kids and you can pay while you have them?
Since you do have the kids, it's up to you to provide for them whether or not their dads are up to date with support. Remember, it was your choice to have those boys.
- SamanthaLv 41 decade ago
Contact your Congressmen.
Enough letters sent will be directed to the White House Senators..