A close friend told me I am still a virgin because I have only slept with females. Do you feel the same way?

I think that even though I haven't had sex in the traditional sense I have had that intimate connection with another individual and that is what sex is about to me. I don't consider myself to be a virgin. (My friend is a straight female and she really doesn't get it).


I guess it just bothers me that she won't legitimize sex between two females as actual sex.

26 Answers

  • T
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    I don't think you're still a virgin. Don't worry about what your friend and some of the people on here think. Obviously that level of intimacy means something. Who cares if there isn't a penis involved? I think there are a lot of people in the same situation as you are, and ultimately the only thing that matters is what you think.

  • 1 decade ago

    I'm confused because you HAVE had sex with a woman but I would consider you a virgin... and that doesn't make sense... so I dunno. That's weird... you've definitely had sex with a woman but you haven't been with a man so you are still a virgin. Hmm...

    But wait a second... I'm more inclined to say that a gay man who has never been with a woman is NOT a virgin. That's very weird. I'll have to do some more thinking on this topic and come up with a concrete opinion.

    BUT - if you feel in your heart of hearts that you are not a virgin then you aren't.

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    Lv 4
    4 years ago

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    far as going to bed with men, she is still a virgin, but being a

    virgin completely, she need to fly south with that thought and

    statemaent. because that just don hold water. when you see

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    et together from time to time? to me, its better than having se

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Just because you haven't had intercourse doesn't mean that you are still a virgin. You *have* had sex with another person, so you obviously are not a virgin.

    Once you have sex with someone (intercourse with a guy or sex with a girl), you are no longer a virgin in my book.

  • 1 decade ago

    No I'm in the same boat you are. To me a virgin is someone who hasn't had sex and I have had sex. Just not in the way they think of it. But sex is sex and yeah, your friend just doesn't get it.

  • 1 decade ago

    Why are we still labelling women as virgins? Are we still selling to the highest bidder and stoning them if they decide to have sex?

    I do agree that your friend doesn't get it. Her opinion does not matter. Yours is the only opinion that matters. You are right about your own sexual status. It might be frustrating that she doesn't get it, and she is invalidating her experience. However, you could choose to look at it another way- Isn't sad that she thinks the penis/vagina thing is more important than the intimacy? what does that tell you about her sex life?

  • 1 decade ago

    That reminds of a scene from "Chasing Amy." Many people think a woman is no longer a virgin once the male sex organ penetrates. I disagree. I think sex is sex whether it be with a man or a woman.

  • 1 decade ago

    In most situations you would only be considered not a virgin if you had physical intercourse, ie a penis penetrating your vagina. This is a very limited definition of virginity, as 'virgin' really means someone who is pure.... in other words to me someone who has not experienced anything sexual. All these things really shouldn't matter to you. Whats impotent is your sexual pleasure, weather your virginity is in tact or not!!!

  • 1 decade ago

    i think as long as you have broken the seal in contact with another person, and if you consider it pleasurable than you are not still a virgin.

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