missT asked in Family & RelationshipsFamily · 1 decade ago

what should I do help please?

My husband and I have been married for 2 years. He is the oldest, his parent favor his yougest brother. My husband works WITH his dad.. his brother does not do anything except take money and more money from the bussines and i am tiered of it.. my husbands do not like it but he tells me he can't do anything about it. also if his parent say or do anything that i do not like its ok but if i say something to them, its not ok.. what should i do 2 make him see that they r in the wrong

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oh plz we moved and my usband got a good job then he left so he can work w/his dad and now we r moving back close 2 his parent. i asked him if he can get another job but he would not do it? oh and i have a 3 month old baby so i really cant move every 7 months or so

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  • 1 decade ago
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    I would stay out of it,as long as your husband is getting paid for the work he does,that's all you have to worry about!!

  • 1 decade ago

    I think that you should just sit down with your husband and speak to him, being honest in whatever you are feeling, i'm not saying that you two should now start an argument, you should just tell him how u feel when is parents do certain things that you do not like, after which the both of you should sit down and talk to his parents expressing that you do not appreciate the way they treat you. I believe that your husband should have your back no matter what because he choose to make you his wife and should not allow anyone to walk all over you. But the most important thing is for all of you to sit down and talk to see where each person is coming from. Let them be aware that they should be considerate of your feelins as you are for theirs(i'm assuming that u do). And i strongly believe that some tough love should be shown to the younger brother by sending him out to find a job and to not come back until he do so, you people need to stronger and stand up to this idler. Oh, i just saw the last bit of info, your husband need to realize that he has a new family now that he needs to take care of and to stop running behind his parents where ever they go. He is now a grown man and need to be a man of his own and not a mama's boy.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    It's very hard to tell you what to do from where I'm. However, where it concerns family matters be carefull what u do. It can come back to haunt u. From what I understand it's his family business{not yours} so leave them alone to sort out their family issues on their own terms. Where it concerns misunderstandings with his parents and him taking their side{the most obvious thing to do not the smartest} u will have to find some time alone with your husband, where u can open up the topic and let him know how much this is affecting u & your relationship with his parents. Don't be pushy or agressive remember it's his parents u are talking about. Maybe u both can produce some comprimise that will work out wonderfully! good luck to u all.

  • 1 decade ago

    I know it sucks my brothers both still live at home with my parents and constantly take there money. Trust me just deal with it. I've tried so many times to say something and all it does is cause a huge argument and time of us not speaking to each other. Life is too short for all that. Good luck I understand how you feel.

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  • mopjky
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    You and your husband are a couple. You need to treat each other as such. He should listen to your concerns and you to his. He has to deal with his dad as both employer and father, that's a lot to work on. Keep talking to him about finding another job away from family. It may make things hard at first,but it will be easier for him in the long run.

  • 1 decade ago

    if the youngest is still under 18 you should let him do whatever he wants to do cause its their family business, he is spending their money not your families money, but if the youngest is more over 18 or 20 you should approach him and make him think that spending that kind of money is impulsive and not to be treated like he owns it, tell him that its hard to make money and he will experience that kind of hardship when he goes to work and earns his own money for his family, do not approach the parents cause they will do nothing, all they will do is give anything to their sons and daughters just to make them happy, and almost all parents do that, so take your time, think of all the impulsive things he do and make him realize that money is not the kind of thing that you can just pick up in the sidewalk

  • Lisa A
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    I wouldn't even attempt it. It may not seem like the scariest thing he has ever done, but maybe he should find employment outside the family business? His parents will not see where it is ok for either of you to butt into their business and they don't want their youngest to grow up either. I'm willing to bet you will both be happier than you can imagine.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Maybe just tell him family or not his brother is taking money from him and the rest of the family. Tell him you know it's his brother but he needs to learn to rely on himself.

  • 1 decade ago

    I FEEL SORRY FOR YOU i just don't know what to tell you to do but i know one thing if his parent did something to me or my child i didn't like they would defiantly know that i disagree with what they done honey you have to let them know don't let them run over you GOOD LUCK

  • 1 decade ago

    they are not in the wrong.

    its their money, they can do what they want with it.

    Persuade your husband to find another job and perhaps move to another town so he is not under mommy and daddy's thumb so much.

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