When is Child Support Fair?
I have 2 children and the father only pays bear minimum of $49 pw for 2 and declares his income as low and gets more than claimed as he gets cash in the hand. I am paying rent and a block of land of and working p/t and studying. Is this fair that life be so hard and I have to work that little bit harder.
- Yvette B yvettebLv 61 decade agoBest Answer
the problem with that comment (above me) is that not everyone has the childrens best interest in mind. it takes two to have that, and some people (male or female) just dont care about their kids.
seems to me, you need a review of the case and to report his azzz to the IRS also.
if your caseworker isnt on the ball, write a letter (just one) and send it to your Regional FEDERAL Child Support Office, Attorney General and Governor. in it give your contact info, case number, his info and the problem. ask them what can they do about this problem.
thats not a legal amount, (doesnt sound like it to me), so would write to all of them. i would fax it weekly until they responded and did something.
links; just click on your state and fill in the amounts; you will see what i mean when that doesnt sound right. even if he claims he cant afford it (not working, low wage, laid off, etc) it should be adding up (what he "cant" pay).
CHILD SUPPORT CALCULATORS
REGIONAL FEDERAL CHILD SUPPORT OFFICES
FACTS AND REGIONAL FEDERAL CS OFFICE INFO
SSI AND CHILD SUPPORT
FIND YOUR STATE REPS
CHILD SUPPORT LIEN NETWORK
(some states work with them)
WORKING UNDER THE TABLE
(in writing, to your local and federal IRS offices)
- PixieLv 71 decade ago
Things won't always be so hard. Be sure the child support bureau keeps an eye on the father's wages through the years so that the appropriate increases will be made, and also be sure to put in for his income tax refunds if he is behind on child support payments. You are studying, so hopefully you will be earning more when your schooling is over. Whenever you start feeling discouraged, just remember it's the exhaustion talking to ya. Try to find a way to take a break and do something for yourself, even if it's just a "spa" day you set up for yourself in your own bathroom. Pamper yourself with a mixture of kosher salt and mineral oil before taking a bath, use a bit of this mixture to slough off dead skin cells, then soak in a hot bath. Makes my day!
- SomeonesmommyLv 51 decade ago
Child support is never fair. I have been a child, parent, and now payee of child support. It always seems to me whichever end I am on, the other one always looks better. I guess hence the saying the grass is always greener on the other side, lol.
Luckily for me, my daughter's father and I can agree on support and parenting time, we are doing it all 50-50. Neither one of us is rich, and we both work full time jobs, but if she needs something we make sure she has it. If he has her this month, he buys what she needs and I pay for the extra things, like dance lessons, field trips, birthday party presents and such. And next month when I have her vice versa.
I think the system gets to be more fairer when everyone has what's best for the kids in mind. For example I have a friend that is 29 years old and has 5 kids by 3 different daddies. She expects to get to stay at home and not work. I can't get it into her head that it is CHILD SUPPORT, not sit at home on your rear support. That money is for the kids, but she doesn't see it that way and it makes me so upset with her.
- 1 decade ago
I am in the same situation, however....my ex only has to pay $16 a week! No, it is not fair. People who say "well you decided to have the kids, them's the brakes"...well the father is responsibile too! There should be a way to get the information verified, try talking with your support officer about it.
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- PEGGY SLv 71 decade ago
I've been there! Unfortunately some men/women are able to fool the courts. Believe me when I tell you that he will pay for it later in life. My daughter finally told her father just what she thought of him when she grew up. I did not even realize that she was aware of how hard it was for me. It is amazing how perceptive children are. Your rewards will come later in life. Children never forget the parent that struggles to raise them, and the one that was unjust to them. Just give them plenty of love, always listen to them, and be there for them. It worked for me. My children treat me great, but have very little respect for their father now that they are old enough to realize what was actually going on.
- 1 decade ago
----it is never fair----you can get help with this if you go to the right authorities------but even if you don;t----always put your two children first-----