Are you unhappy because of the reasons you listed only or are you unhappy generally? IF you're generally unhappy then maybe you should seek counselling. I know you prob wont want to at first, but it will really help just to talk it out. The things a friend can do for you reach a certain limit, and since everything is confidential with a counsellor it will help to just speak your mind. Also they will have the most neutral advice to help you back on track and will help you to help yourself.
But if you are feeling unhappy cause of the reasons you listed and nothing else, then you need to work through them one by one. Figure out whats going on with this friend and fix it!! Because if you don';t take things into your own hands, nothing will get done. you need to MAKE things happen. You need to fix it yourself. Be determined, you cant lose your best friend, so don't! IDon't even think of it as an option. Work it out.
The boy situation.. you need to figure out what you really want. Its not selfish but it'll be worse for you and the boy in the long run if you dont really wanna be with him. he'll just get hurt and it wotn go anywhere. you need to figure out what will work best for you, cause it isnt fair on him to lead him on either if your heart is with someone else. you know what I mean right? I understand your situation though!
I hope things work out for you, just take each day as it comes. Dont overcomplicate or overthink things, and deal with things in small steps ok? Take care!!
Personal experience :P
· 1 decade ago