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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsSingles & Dating · 1 decade ago

how do u know??

how do u know when you are totally over someone that you believe that you once loved. It took me 4 years to realize that maybe i dont like thsio kid anymore.... but how do i knoe for a fact??

12 Answers

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    Your feelings aren't "facts"- they just are. If you think you're over him, you are. You're over him whenever you decide to be.

  • VW
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    Sometimes we think of the good times we've had and question the current situation. We want those days back. If you have these doubts about the person, it's generally a good way of knowing that you should go your separate ways. You are not married and that's what dating is about. How do you know you don't like someone as much as you thought? Well, weigh what you like with what you don't. Be realistic and then make the decision.

  • 1 decade ago

    If you are thinking like this, you are definitelly not IN LOVE anymore.

    Of course, you will always remember the good things with pleasure. and some kind of feeling will alwayis exist. Our heart does have a memory.

    In my opinion, when we think maybe we don't like someone it is because we don't. Love is an intense feeling.

    Do you feel like being with him more and for longer that with anyone else?

    Is he your first and last thought every day?

    Do you have pleasure in pleasing him, in doing little or big things just to see him happy, to see his smile?

    Does he make you laugh?

    if the answers are negative... you certainly are over him.

    hope it is for the better!

  • 1 decade ago

    this is difficult. I was in a relationship in which I knew I still loved this person but the relationship was not good for either of us and even though I loved him it wasn't enough and I decided to let him go anyway. I think that if you both want it to work then you can work at loving someone but when its feels over and you don't have any desire to try to work on it then I guess its time to let go.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Ask yourself theses questions:

    1-Am I happy with him?

    2-How do I behave when he is around?

    3-Am I ready to give up my dearest things for him?

    4-In difficult times Do I prefer to be alone or with him?

    You will be able to understand yourself more after thinking in these questions. Remember: Relationships are meant to fill us with happiness - It doesn't mean no arguments. The person you love is the one you are willing to do things for him that you won't do to anyone else - in all levels.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    you should ask ur self,if you were over them then you wouldn't get all nervous and stuff around them, you should be able to talk right and other little things like that, but if you liked them for that long i think you should let them go

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    What do you want? Do you want to spend every minute of every day with this person or not? Do you love this person or not? Do you hope he/she loves you or not? That's the way you tell.

  • 1 decade ago

    if you don't get a tingle when you see him or here his name ,if you cringe you are so over him, or the sound of their voice make you want to scream, when just the thought of them puts you in a bad mood you are over him

  • 1 decade ago

    You just know. Although you may never get over them, you will move on.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    U don't think of that person in a lovey- dovey way when you see/ think about them u don't fantasize about them

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