HELP my 9 month old son won't sleep please read all the details before you answer the question see below?

My son just turned 9 months old and is still not sleeping thru the night. He gets up every hour which would be fine if i didn't have to go to work and have a 2 1/2 year old too! The longest he has ever slept was 4 1/2 hours. My peditritician said we have to let him cry it out. I always nurse my son to sleep and then put him in his crib sometimes he wakes up and cries a minute or 2 and sometimes he doesn't. Then he gets up about every hour to 50 minutes from then on all night long until 7am. We did try the cry it out method with our 1st child and he only cried a few minutes the first night 2 minutes the second night and then slept through the night after that but our 2nd son cried longer each day for the first 5 days and we couldn't continue on with it because it was not working with him. My peditrician said it may take up to 2 mths. I don't understand why. My ? is how long will a cry it out method take on a 9 mth old? All advice welcome and 10pts to best answer. Thanks for the help.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Please RUN to your library or bookstore and get a copy of "the No Cry Sleep Solution" by Elizabeth Pantley. It will save you!!!!

    Or, you could just bring the babe to bed with you. Then he can latch on while you sleep and you won't be jumping out of bed all night long.

  • 1 decade ago

    I agree with the others. Make sure that he is fed before bed. There is no reason at this age he shouldn't be able to sleep through the night without eating. He has you trained at this point. when he cries go in and rub his back and lay him back down the first time. Then leave the room. If he starts crying again go back in after a few minutes but don't talk to him. You can sit on the floor by the crib and let him cry it out. It is going to be very hard at first but if you dont break the habit now it will be worse later. Try to get him attached to a special toy or blanket that he can use to comfort himself with. Stop nursing him it the middle of the night. Good luck and stay strong!

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I breastfed my daughter for over 3 yrs. She was the same way at that age! Have you co-slept? Or has he always been in his own bed? The cry it out worked great for my older child, but no for my daughter. She would do the same as your 9 month old is.

    You mentioned that you have an older child. Is he/she in a toddler bed? Maybe your 9 month old doesn't like being a crib? My daughter didn't and when she was placed in a toddler bed, I no longer had any other problems with her waking up at night.

    Could you place your 9 month old on the floor next to your bed in your room? Giving a snack before bedtime could help as others have suggested as well.

    Another thing to look at is why your 9 month old is waking up? Is he wanting to nurse again? Is it for hunger or comfort? Is he just wanting momma near? Maybe finding why he is waking up and coming up with a solution would end it.

    Ultimately it's your baby and you know him better than anyone else. Do what is best for your child :)

  • 1 decade ago

    You just have to keep it up. The reason it didnt work is because you interrupted the process. Your child has now officially learned that crying for mama will get him what he wants. Just let him cry. Yes it is frustrating, and your emotions will run the gammet, but it is IMPORTANT to show him that he can sleep on his own. I have 2 children, and had to do it at some point with both. When my 11 year old son was 3, he started day care when I went to work full time. He cried and cried and cried when I left him, even screaming "MOMMMY DONT LEAVE ME" but that didnt stop me from having to go to work. Eventually, he discovered that day care wasnt so bad, and that he had to work it out himself rather than always having mommy there to comfort him. I just gave him a big hug and kiss and told him he would be fine and what time I would be back to get him. Do the same thing with yours. Even though he is only 9 months old, he will understand your expressions and feel your love. Best of luck to you!

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  • 1 decade ago

    Wow I don't think my kids were ever in that situation but only when they were sick or teething..Anyways is he active during the day so he'd be tired during the night or sometimes music usually puts my kids to sleep then I'll put them to bed..I'm not sure about that let it cry out method because sometimes i can't stand the fact my kids crying while i stand there...Also I just remember my sons loved Barney videos I'll put it on he'll fall asleep especially the music ones...

    Source(s): Just from experiences...
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  • 1 decade ago

    we let our daughter cry it out after 12 months of not sleeping through the night. You have to do what you are comfortable with, but if you do give in once, your child will know that eventually you'll come if they cry long enough unfortunately. Maybe try a new bedtime routine...such as a book in a rocking chair and give your child a special silky (one of those blankets with a head on them, really small for babies) to hold onto for comfort?

  • 1 decade ago

    I am the mother of 4 sons, so I think I can be an authority on this subject. I believe your child is hungry! Feed him a little cereal before putting him down for the night and I'll just betch he will sleep - and luckily, so will you! Another idea, maybe it is time to ween him off the breast milk and start him on formula.

    Source(s): My own child rearing.
  • First you need to stop nursing him to sleep. He needs to learn to put himself to sleep.. Part of his waking is noticing that you are gone.

    Second you let him cry it out, until it works. It will not be pleasant in your house for a while. This could take weeks; hopefully not. I empathize. My youngest was not the best sleeper until she turned a year old.

    Third, you have to stick with it. It will be loud, annoying, heartwrentching and stressful but for the sake of everyone; including, the little one; you need to be consistant. He needs to put himself to sleep. Otherwise, hubby is on the couch and junior is 6 years old and sleeping in bed with you. Not a good situation.

    Source(s): Mom of 2- Personal experience
  • 1 decade ago

    You mentioned that you were breast feeding him until he falls asleep. Well, when he wakes up, he feels abandoned because he falls asleep in your arms and wakes up alone. I would feed him some cereal before bedtime, that is something that will stick with him and keep him full. But it will take time. But don't let him cry uncontrolably. Crying a little isn't bad but not continuously. Good luck.

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