wat if you are going out with someone that you dont love?

but you cant break up with him b/c you hurt him too many times

wat should i do

i need advice he is in love with me

but i love someone else

please help

25 Answers

  • zen522
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    Be with the one you love.

    Does the other person love you as well?

    Source(s): I believe in talking and being straight forward You only lose if you don't take the chance.
  • 1 decade ago

    You might want to break up with him. Coming from the guys point of view, a girl has done that to me. Better to break up no matter if you have hurt him a lot or not. It is a lot worse for him to find out the hard way. If you don't love him and know there is someone else, don't let the situation catch you in a very bad position.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    look - you have to be honest with him and yourself. you cannot continue on in a relationship when you have no feelings for this person. the love just isn't there from you. what you are doing is saving points to be an academy award winning actress. so, cut it out.

    you must sit down, calmly and talk with him. yes, it will hurt him. but, the pain of breakup is so much easier when the other person (that's you) is finally honest.

    he will survive a break up with you. the sun will rise again tomorrow. life as we know it will not come to an end simply because you were finally able to say "i don't love you. find someone else."

    Source(s): experience and lots of it
  • 1 decade ago

    Hmm guess the word honesty has no meaning in your relationships or you'd not have the need to hurt the one you supposedly love or pretend to love when you really don't. That said, emotions make things confusing and guilt only adds to it. Stop beating yourself up about it, let it go and him too. Time for you both to find those who want to be with you rather then waste time playing childish games and living with needless guilt about the things you did before. Obviously the poor sap is unaware that he is being played and it's risky for you to stay because there's no predicting what he might do once he finds out he's not the only one troding down that road to romance with you.

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  • 1 decade ago

    This is the whole idea of dating: so you can find out what you like AND what you don't like.

    Obviously if you don't love him, you have to break up. Hurt is only part of life.

    What would hurt him more: breaking up now or getting married, having kids, divorcing, having custody battles, etc. later?

    If you don't break up and get more serious, you're hurting both of you much worse.

  • 1 decade ago

    You don't need to love someone to be in a relationship with them. Love comes to you when it's time. If it's not so much a matter of not loving him YET, and more that you'll NEVER love him, you need to let him go. Wasting his time will only be worse.

    If your love of someone else is getting in the way of being a good girlfriend to your boyfriend, you have to let him go. Holding on would only be cruel.

  • 4 years ago

    your pal may well be top approximately which you do no longer comprehend what love is. yet he's erroneous whilst he sez you may not be in love. love is an define concerning the form you experience in direction of some one, whether its doggy love or undeniable previous love. its a similar crap to me lol. what you do might desire to earnings is the thank you to be waiting to maintain a relationship. get to renowned the adult males you opt to this component formerly you 2 grow to be a pair. and you're able to experience which you like them after a month or so yet your purely in love with the area of the dude you comprehend. it takes awhile to get to renowned a individual so do no longer positioned each and every thing into them in case you haven't any longer time-commemorated them for that long. i've got time-commemorated people who've dated for a 365 days and that they nevertheless do no longer say they love one yet another yet. they defiantly look after another and are a solid couple. yet they are taking it sluggish which in my view is a robust concept. plus your 13 years previous end irritating approximately boys. it is powerful prepare yet no longer alot of 13 365 days olds are mature adequate to start up a solid relationship. your nevertheless a new child pass have relaxing and revel in it whilst it lasts. you have a large number of time to look to your particular dude whilst your older. save the heartache once you sixteen or some thing :P

  • 1 decade ago

    You're going to hurt him more if he finds out from someone else that you love someone else. Be honest with him, and break it off gently. Explain to him the reasons why it won't work and apologize for hurting him.

  • .
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    End it. You CAN break up with him and you should if you don't love him but you know he loves you. It would be cruel to stay with him and a lie.

    He'll get over the hurt...and you need to learn to stop toying with other people's emotions.

  • 1 decade ago

    Break up with him. Do not stay with someone over pity. It never works out, even if you think it is what's best. Also, you are not responsible for anyone else's happiness. It will hurt him if he later found out you stayed with him out of pity instead of following your heart.

  • 1 decade ago

    well if you don't love him then you should just break up with him because staying with him will only hurt him because like you said your not in love with him and your in love with someone else.....Its better off if you just tell him the truth instead of staying with him because the longer you wait the harder it will be to do it....!!

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