This is, indeed, a frustrating situation for any man. Between 30-40 per cent of men is believed to suffer from Premature Ejaculation.
The prime reason contributing to this condition is performance anxiety, i.e. anxiety related to perform well in bed. Along with this, psychological factors such as insomnia, religious beliefs, negative childhood experiences, fear, are also responsible for a Premature Ejaculation.
Although this condition cannot be stopped immediately, it is tackled with patience and practice.
Few Control & Self-help techniques to a longer and effective performance are as follows:
Relax : The most crucial aspect in preventing the condition, a relaxed mind can help you perform much better.
Build a positive & healthy Relationship : Your mind and the heart are equally responsible for a great sex. So, creating positive vibes in your relationship is a good source of satisfying performance.
Exercise : Keeping your body fit increases your stamina and ability to last longer, leading to a control in the play.
Stop and Start : The most common technique used in psychosexual therapy. Practice stimulating yourself to the point just before ejaculation and just before climax, stop. Start again when the sensations have subsided. Repeat it 3-4 times. This would enable to increase the duration of the process gradually.
Change Strokes : If you find an increased control with the above techniques, try to change your stroke to something less stimulating rather than stopping altogether.
Change Positions : During the coitus, perform the stop and start technique when the sensations become strong. When you feel more confident, change the position instead of stopping and start again.