Have you ever cheated on your spouse and why? Did you quit the affair and work it out with your spouse?

I want success stories .... Ones that worked on the marriage afterwards and made it work.... Did your spouse forgive you or did you ruin the marriage and now wish you never did it to begin with?

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  • 1 decade ago
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    I didn't cheat but he did. We were having a long distance relationship at the time because he was FAR AWAY for a 6 mths work thing. He was out one night getting drunk with everyone, when an engaged women he worked with came on to him. She kept telling him 'she'll never know'.. and I guess he believed that in his drunken state. He regretted it the second it happened and the guilt ate him. The day he told me was probably the worst day of my life. He cried the whole time he told me, and begged me not to leave him, I was the love of his life and the fact 'he ****** up big time' tore him up. He said he'd do anything for me (including coming home that day and quitting!) as long as I gave him a chance to make it up to me. He said he wanted to spend the rest of his life proving to me that he was the only man for me, even if he doesn't deserve me. I cried (and screamed)... but when I sat down and thought about it... I knew he was the love of my life.. and even though he hurt me SO bad, I had to stay and at least try to work it through. It so hard to work past that, but we did it. We have a open and honest relationship.. and as ****** up as this will sound... its even stronger then before. Maybe cause we came so close to the end, we now know how much we TRULY mean to each other. But man! I thought I knew that before... now its just on a whole new level.

    And yes, if he could take it back he would (a million times over). Not only to spare me the pain or because he knows there are no 3rd chances, but because he now knows that the guilt is consuming and he hurt himself a lot in this process as well.

  • Bruce
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    Yes I did because she wasn't giving me enough sex, yes I quit the affair and no it did not work out with the spouse, she ended up having an affair and left me. But now I have a good woman and am quite happy. The first marriage was a waste of time and money and looking back I can say that I made the wrong choice.

  • ?
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    I cheated on my husband once with a fellow firefighter and my husband found out almost immediately. I did it because I was at a very low point in my life and I thought I would be happy in some crazy sort of way. My husband asked me to try to work it out and so I left the fire department and we agreed to take each day one at a time. It wasn't easy. I had to earn back his trust but we have been together and we are closer now than we have ever been and that was 4 years ago. Don't get me wrong. It wasn't easy and we had to work through all the issues but we made it. I regret the affair though everyday and I would never do that again.

  • 5 years ago

    I think that would be awful. If I had a marital bed, I would never do that, no matter how big a jerk my spouse was. I just wouldn't do it. I think it would take it to a whole new level - a low level, like something that lives under a rock, maybe? ADD: you mean threesome? Sorry, my mind doesn't work that way. To me, that is sick and perverted behavior.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Yes, I did cheat on my Fiance. My father had just died, and I was very depressed. Me and my fiances relationship was on the rocky side, and I felt that everyone was turning their back on me. Then *Mike* came along...He was affectionate, he cared, he told me I was beautiful etc, He just made me feel alive again. I ended up having sex with him numerous times over a period of 3 weeks. Then I called it off. I couldnt live like that anymore. I was so wrapped up in guilt that I couldnt sleep, I couldnt eat, nothing.

    A couple of weeks later I told my fiance. He was/is very very hurt, but he is still with me. Even after I hurt him like that. Do I regret cheating on him? YES! I wish I could turn back time and change everything. I wish that I could of told Mike to Fu Ck off, that there was no way I would cheat.

    My fiance and I's relationship will never be the same after my stupidity.

    Not all men are as understanding and forgiving as my fiance though. So if you are planning on cheating, dont risk it.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    My wife not only cheated on me with her boyfriend but also with his 14 year old son ,,,, No we never worked things out ,,,, I dropped her like a hot rock ,,,, She's a bumb now and doesn't have anyone ,,,, works at a diner during the day and on the curb evenings ,,,,

    Source(s): You said you only want success stories ,,,,, Well real life isn't always a soap opera and you can't always have it your own way ,,,, but there is a happy ending to this after all ,,,, I'm seeing a wonderful girl who is energetic and successful ,,,, It appears she's my perfect counter part ,,,, We are discussing marriage ,,,, The furture looks good ,,,, Hope this ended the way you want ,,,,,
  • 1 decade ago

    I cheated, big mistake. It didn't work out for my spouse. He said he'd forgive me, but he doesn't trust me now. If you're thinking about it don't do it. If you want out of the marriage just leave.

  • sweet
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    I never have because he's just so good to me. I would feel horrible guilt. I can understand people that do cheat though. Temptation is everywhere and when we are weak we are most vulnerable. Take it easy and one day at a time. Good luck to you.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Hello, my husband came home early on a business trip and found me blowing my neighbor on my couch. He then stormed out, and wouldn't call for 2 weeks. But then, when he did call me, I told him that I would take a week off of work just to have sex with him 24/7. I was his little dirty sex slave. And I still see the neighbor, but he knows that after I am done with him, I will be his slave for a week. And he says it is worth every minute. But in all and all, we are still together, we have 3 children, and living in Florida with a Bay side house, and expecting twins. I think it is from all the make up sex.

  • 1 decade ago

    i haven't.it was plenty of times where i really wanted to do it,but i had a long thought and left the decision alone.

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