1. All sons are inordinately bonded to mama.... it is really just a smaller version of oedipus rex complex. And some moms are more invasive than others. He is apparently allowing her to be more invasive than you would prefer.... You need to be more direct with your requests --- see below
2. If there is really nothing he can do about your morning sickness, don't tell him about it.... husbands really feel pretty helpless unless you have a specific request ...."I need you to go to the pharmacy and buy some......"
"I don't feel well...." gives him nothing to go on. So, you have two issues here:
1. you are married to a guy who feels a bit more concern over his mom's needs than yours, (but she is letting him know what she needs, you apparently from this note, are not.... a complaint is not an expression of need....and
2. You are not communicating effectively what you want him to do for you. (Is her boyfriend her now husband??? I'm confused here). Learn to communicate your wishes.... great book to read, cheap, and still in paperback --- teaches you ways to get what you want without trouncing on someone's ego.... "The Assertive Option"...cheap at Amazon.com. still the standard in counseling/communication classes because no one has yet written one better, worth every dime.
No, he didn't choose to "make these kids"--- This was a choice the two of you made together, either consciously or by default ... "to do nothing is to decide" If you each chose to not use birth control, then you each chose to be parents together... (To jump out of an airplane and not pull the chute cord, IS a decision. to have sex, and NOT use birth control is a choice to be a parent.)
You asked... hope this is helpful