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dohm84 asked in HealthMental Health · 1 decade ago

I'm 22 years old and I hate to be home alone at

Ever since I was a kid I always thought people where looking in at my through my windows. I've always been really scared to stay home alone at night. If I do have to stay alone at night I must sleep on the couch and all the lights in the house must be on and the TV must be on. I'm married now and my husband is in the Air Force. He has never been deployed but I know the day will come and I'll have to sleep alone in my house at night. There are times when he has to work nights and I can stay alone, but like I said the TV and all the lights must be on. We just moved to a new 2 story house and I can’t seem to get myself to sleep upstairs in the bed when he is not home. I just feel like someone is going to break into my house and kill me (crazy cuz I'm on a military base). I really want to get over this but have no idea how. We got a dog and I thought that would help but I think it made things worse. The dog loves to bark and anything and that freaks me out. What can I do?

4 Answers

  • 1 decade ago
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    oh, I've been there sister!!! I cannot count the times that i've been awake at night scared shitless, omg. But i think now that i am older and a mother things like that don't bother me anymore. I seriously remember almost being paralyzed by my own fear of kinda makes me want to laugh right now, but i won't. I would just try rational thought when you feel unsafe....think of the odds that are in your favour...take a deep breath and fall asleep. If you cannot get past this, tell your doc he may be able to prescribe you some ativan to relax you a night. I'm sorry that you have to go through this and i know the feeling. Good luck!

  • 1 decade ago

    Do whatever you need to do to feel comfortable in your home. Make sure you lock your doors. Get an alarm system. If you need lights on, or the television/radio on to be able to sleep so what. Maybe part of the problem is you just need some "white noise". We have a box fan running in our bedroom year round. (we live in Chicago so it's freezing here during the winter, we hardly need a fan) We love the noise of the fan, and can't sleep without some sort of noise. I usually can't fall asleep without some "down time". I like to read. And I usually fall asleep while I'm reading. It could be that you just need to relax some. Take some time to de-stress.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Sleep medication maybe or something to calm your nerves and relax you a bit.

    Its a fear you have to overcome - Maybe talking to a doctor to find the root of the problem? But when he is gone for 6 to 12 months it will be hard - I personally would try an anxiety pill before bed and attempt to sleep in bed alone but for sure get advice from a doctor.

  • 1 decade ago

    I am the exact same way couch, TV, kitchen light and hallway light on 24/7.....try to get a friend from base to stay with you when her husband is gone too you guys can stay at each others house. I really dont know much and there is really nothing I can think of to get rid of it believe me.

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