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What would you do if you were going to a church but you always felt out of place there, and even if they are having a big get together thing, noone really came to talk with you at all and you sat there all the while bored and feeling alone or rejected??

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  • 1 decade ago
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    1 Corinthians 12:18 but now God has set the members, each one of them, in the body just as He please.

    From this scripture God will put you in a church where He wants you to be. I think you should seek God for the church that you should attend. Perhaps a Spirit-filled church where believers are moving in the fruit and the gifts of the Holy Spirit where God's love abounds. Your present church does not fit the picture of any other church I know of. However we can also make more friends by being a friend first.

  • 1 decade ago

    I went to a church before and felt just like that. I didn't go back, either. Instead, I went to another church where I felt the love of God and the love of the others there. And I finally found a place for ministry. So, now that I am in that church & see visitors come...I always try my best to make them feel warm & welcomed. The way I would want to be treated if I were them.

  • 1 decade ago

    I would find another church.

    I would also look and try to figure out if maybe I could be doing the same thing I'm upset at them for not doing (trying to take interest in the lives of my church family). If you're sitting alone, expecting them to all come to you, you're not really doing yourself any favors.

    But if you feel you are closed out even when you try to fit in, either talk to them about it (keep in mind these are your brothers and sisters in Christ), or try to find a place where you belong.

  • 1 decade ago

    If we are speaking of a social situation, or a religious situation?

    The only time I would consider leaving a religion, is if they taught something that the Bible does not teach. But when it comes to social situations, I had a family member with that very problem. He later told me that he realized he need to correct his thinking. He didn't want to throw away relationships with other people, and realized that no matter what they did that was wrong, it wouldn't make his reaction right. So he followed God's example. God didn't throw us away, right? He didn't just destroy us and start over.

    Sometimes, others make mistakes, and leave others out. The Bible teaches that we all stumble, many times. And that all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. Even the apostle PETER did that very thing.

    The apostle Paul explained that prior to the arrival of certain Jewish brothers in Antioch, Peter had freely mixed with Gentile believers. However, he separated himself from these “in fear of those of the circumcised class” who had just arrived from Jerusalem. Paul had to correct him. It didn't make Peter an evil man. He just fell into a trap. Others can too, and perhaps leave you out of social situations. It doesn't mean they are evil people, or should be discarded. (Galatians 2:11-14.) Peter accepted the counsel, and went on to write books of the Bible, and is now a reigning king-priest in the heavens.

    So instead of just throwing away people and relationships, I would try to forgive them for any oversight on their part, and instead, make the initiative, following Bible principles while doing so.

    But that's social situations. Deciding whether or not the religion was correct and whether it was time to leave? I would look to the Bible, to see if what they say lines up.

    I'm not sure about the social parameters of your religion, but before and after our meetings at Kingdom Halls of Jehovah's Witnesses, we talk for about 20 minutes with everyone. Everyone talks with one another. Sometimes, if I feel down, I go stand by the door, and greet ones when they come in. Smile, make a joke, tell them it's good to see them. Always pulls me right out of it.

    Now as to your religion? That is for you to decide, and examine what the Bible really teaches, compared to what they teach. But fellow humans? In social situations? Always give them a chance. Heck, Joseph gave his brothers another chance, and he had brothers that . . . the only reason that they didn't kill him, is because they could make a buck off of him by selling him into slavery.

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  • 1 decade ago

    I would advise you that you should not be disgusted with Church.Church is not a property of any ot her human being, It is the place of Jesus and Christ, the son of God according to Christanity. However, as I am muslim we consider that tJesus was uplifted by God in the same manner in which he was gibven birth without secretion of male fluid in Marry. It is mracle . So darling you should not be unfaithful to Christ . Go to church and say your prayers, He is a silent listner of our prayers. OK Good Luck.

  • 1 decade ago

    Go to another church.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    i went to a church once, and not one person came over to say hi. i didn't want to go in the first place (my husband's idea).

    i went to a solstice gathering and at least twenty people greeted me. i had definitely found my place.

    i think you need to keep searching.

  • 1 decade ago

    I would look for another church.

  • Sheryl
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    I'd switch churches in a heartbeat. Don't ever get stuck someplace. Always be prepared to move on, if need be.

  • JoJoBa
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    I would find me another church.

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