what do you do when you find out that your boyfriend's cheating, but you do not want to tell him?

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  • 1 decade ago
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    If you don't want to tell him right out that you know, maybe hint at things, give him a chance to come clean to you. Either way, I would say to get out of the relationship. You deserve better than that.

  • 1 decade ago

    You should for sure tell him and let him know. Relationships are wet threads they break off easily so, u should handle them with care. how ever clear and transparent a relation is, the stronger and rigid it is. If not your relationship isn't a true one. If he being unfaithful and still not speaking it out, he is sinning. Atleast you dont sin too by not saying anything. The person who sins is a sinner and the one who doesnt say anything and also hides, is a bigger sinner. So dont do it. Speak out then only you will know, whether he is worth or not for you or else the whole thing will drag and drag and one day break snap. Try to save it or end it without any ill feelings against each other. It will be better for your life also. May Luck be in your favour. As you are not a cheater like him and its no mistake of yours and you are still going through hell, i presume thats why you have posted such a personal question here, for an answer. Really my soul concern is with u i hope my answer helped you any bit, will make me happy, beacuse i know how guys are in this world.

  • 1 decade ago

    If this is you, you are probably hurting deep inside right now. He broke the trust you had in him. That trust is one of the main parts that makes a relationship. Honesty and Communication are two other main parts of any reltionship. If you don't have those, you really don't have a relationship.

    I am 39 years old and have had my share of guys who have cheated on me. (It was only a handful, but still, enough). My heart just sinks to my feet when that happens. I always gave them chances, but they always did it again. I couldn't fully trust them again and the relationship just wasn't the same. As I got older, my standards got tighter. I decided that they only got one chance. I am worth far more respect than that. I also decided that they will not sleep with me. It seems that when they did, that is what they really wanted. I needed to respect myself. I haven't had a boyfriend for over 2 years and have stuck to my standards.

    About a month ago, a friend of mine and I decided to start dating. Since we have been friends and have gotten to know each other and know each others morals and standards, we are good dating partners. Who knows where this will lead???

    Long story short, never give up on who might be out there for you that God has in store for you. These guys who come along do have things to offer you and break our hearts. I tried to see it as they prepare us for the right guy and we appreciate the right so much more when he comes along. I sure didn't look at my friend in this way whatsoever when I met him, but I see him in a new light. It is divine intervention.

    Value yourself and get rid of the guy. You will feel better by telling him how you feel. You can just tell him you decided to find someone who can be faithful to your heart and soul and he can continue to be unmoral and unfaithful to someone else. After that, do not accept phone calls from him and don't go where you might see him. Hugs to you and may your new year be much better than you thought.

  • 1 decade ago

    Well first of all u have to had see him cheating on u do not listen to someone else cuz da could be makin a mistake or lying to u. But u should talk to him and ask him if yall relationship is goin anywhere? He probably jus needs some alone time wit u

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  • 1 decade ago

    First of all you find out everything about the situation, then you find the little..skanks name, phone, email and so on. Tell her everything about him and you, maybe even add a little extra something, like that your pregnant...or he has krabs. Then wish her the best of luck. Then ask him who "enter name here" is and see what comes out of his mouth. Tell him everything you know, then see what happens. But don't take him back at all or until you make him feel like the little **** he is, and he tries to come crawling back. I'm vindictive, and its happened to me, and I did the same thing I'm stating here.

  • 1 decade ago

    Well chances are if you confront him he will deny it. If you chose to be in this relationship and tolerate his abuse then don't complain to us about it. If you know for sure he is cheating on you and you do want to get away from his bullshi t then breakup with him. Simple. Good luck and I hope you respect yourself enough to leave his sorry as s.

  • Karma
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    Well, if you have cold, hard proof and are 100% positive he is, then you can go about this two ways...

    1) Tell him how you feel, then leave.

    2) Don't tell him anything, and leave.

    Either way, you're young hun, and have no marital ties. Save your sanity, health, and respect for yourself. Get out while you can.

    Source(s): Been there, done that.
  • 1 decade ago

    Don't listen to these white fu's cause everybody knows you should tell him or find out what else he does wit her then you blame him for all that stuff after humiliating him in front of his friends or family then say ITS OVER PLAYA!

  • Nikki
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    Keep an eye on him and find out who the girl is. Then call him on it when you catch them in bed. n

  • maamu
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    You don't want to tell him you know??? Wow , I am impressed with your willpower--that would be the first thing I would do.

    I guess you sit around and wait for him to tell you.

    M

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