Okay. I'm at the young tender age at 14 where if I don't get help I will cry so...?

As soon as I left the skating rink a few weeks ago my boyfriend made out with this other girl. This hurts me really because (I dont care what you say) I'm in love with him. I've never said this baout anyone else before... but anyway he calls me, tells me what happened in tears and breaks up with me. He siad he didn't understand how I even liked him, and still love him after that. Main thing: He still says he loves me and when we talk on the phone he calls me baby like he always used to. He's talking about asking me back---- should I? I know I can't trust him that well but I love him SO much!

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    Yo, give him another chance, but say its his last one. if he touches or kisses another woman slap him accross the face and tell him he's a messed up **********. Aight. best of luck.

    SEACREST

    !OUT!

  • 1 decade ago

    All other things aside, as soon as you left this skating rink he made out with some other girl. Then he broke up with you. Why do you "love" him? Watching your girlfriend leave somewhere and then making out with another girl isn't an act of love or an accident, last I checked.

    So now he's playing the "I'm a horrible person, why do you love me?" game and "thinking" about taking you back. He's just trying to see if you'll put up with his cheating. Great situation for him: docile girlfriend and plenty of sugar on the side.

    Also, at the "young tender age of 14", you really don't know what love is. One day you will but not yet.

  • 1 decade ago

    My dear can you really trust him is the question you asked. Was he really sorry he did it or just sorry that he got caught. I know right now he is your whole world. If you just be patient, you will find that there are many who would love to be at your side. It hurts and it will for a while. However with every hurt we become stronger. So when the next person comes along red flags will go up when he remotely sounds like the other you will walk on by until you find the true love who will connect with your soul. He's out there but this guy though it may be him, needs to do much growing up as do you. I wish you well and I hope that you find someone who truly appreciates you for the beautiful person that you are. Blessed be. Maeve.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Yes you may feel like he is the love of your life and always will be. I once was 14 (now am 26)and in love too. It is a long story though; but in short I have hurt my self so much thinking that every tear I shed in the name of love was worth it. Well, it took me 5 years to find out that he was only interested in... you know what!

    Anyways, I think you should realize that love is a very positive feeling love should never hurt you and you should (vica versa) never hurt your love. If he loved you even half as much as you love him; he would not want to see you being hurt; thus, you will definitely one day meet that one person who will show you how much you mean to him and he will value you so much that you are going to see that this hearthache was not worth the time at all. Because believe it or not; you are special girl and yes you are very but bery beautiful. How do I know this because I can read between the lines. Your inner beauty shines and it is going to bring you to that one ultimate relationship; but until that day comes you have to be able to tell the fake one from the real deal! (and I know that you know what I mean right = )

    So, get out there and keep your back straight, chin up be always proud of yourself because you are not anybody; you are someone who deserves the best and never settle for anything less! He might as well regret his loss, and he has to work hard at it to convince you. Do not challenge yourself to figure out if he is really into you or not. Once again, if he was so in love he would do anything and everything not to hurt you in the first place! For your best interest say buh-bye to that loser and say hello to the next fish =)

    But if that next one stinks too, you know what to do right, just throw him back in the water and all over again. Do not give up and never ever blame your self!

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  • Tess
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    Resist temptation. You can do far better. Plus, it wouldn't be worth it if he did this all over again now, would it? Just remember, boys aren't the most important thing when you're 14. Go shopping or to the movies with a few friends, this should cheer you up a bit. Good luck and happy new year

  • Barbiq
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    He's talking about asking you back? He should be asking your forgiveness. If he can't keep his hands to himself you don't need him EVER. I know you don't want to hear it and probably won't listen but there are alot of guys out there for you to meet and get to know and date. I know you have real feelings for this guy, but please believe me you do not deserve to be treated like an after thought. If he truly loved you he would not have fooled around on you. And don't let anyone tell you any differently! He is trying to make you feel sorry for him and guilty for being mad and hurt. Don't play the game. It isn't worth it. If he does it once, he'll do it again or he has done it before. It sounds like he is only thinking about getting physical...and trust me you don't want to go down that path. It is just too dangerous. Not only could you get pregnant, but you could get HIV/AIDS. And although you don't want to hear it you are too young to have to worry with all that as well. Talk to your Mom. Be honest and tell her what you are going through...let her be there for you. That's what we are there for, and what we want. She may get mad...but not at you at him. Because he hurt you. That's what we do. We want to protect our kids from everything. Even their first heartbreak. And we want to be there to help you get through it all and understand what you are going through....Be strong, be safe. Best wishes.

  • 1 decade ago

    It's time to make an intelligent choice. If you accept him back, prepare for more heartache. I know you love him, but what I called love at your age is nothing compared to what I call love now as the husband of a lovely wife and the father of two kids. Endure the pain and learn to love someone else. You CAN do it.

  • 1 decade ago

    You're 14, and have a boyfriend, and love him? How, I am young too, and all my friends say that I like my close guy friend, but we don't like each other, explain that? And so, you have a boyfriend and I don't. Why don't you get him back anyway, I don't know much, but if he felt the same way, then he would do that. Happy New Year, and Great Luck!

  • 1 decade ago

    young and tender? please us fourteen year olds are strong! You can handle this girl! Of course it would hurt you, you have a right to be stung. It depends how well you know this guy, really. if he has a reputation of cheating on girls, drop him like you've grabbed him out of the oven! The thing is, he may honestly be disgusted with himself. Go with what your gut instinct tells you, you can be the only real judge of whether he deserved another chance or not. Some people deserve second chances, and some don't. no matter what, though, if he does this again, I wouldn't trust him one bit.

  • TBONE
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    you must care what we say your asking for advice.

    love or no love if he is making out with some one else he don't respect the relationship

    and if you take him back after the way he treated you then you don't respect yourself

    grow some back bone there are to many men in world that will treat you like a queen.

  • 1 decade ago

    Even if this is love, you need to love yourself and respect yourself first - getting back with anyone who has cheated on you (at any age 14 or 44) is dangerous territory as you are setting yourself up to be hurt again and will lose self respect.

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