Can a one nite stand be more?

Met this guy at a club one nite when i was determined to get a kiss from a stranger (it had been a loong time!!). Ended up with a sweet guy..and in bed! Thought that would be the end of it, but there's some attraction there so have had a few more sessions. I'm suprised i have some feelings for this guy, but he's 25, i'm 34, and he's not looking for a relationship, just sex. Sometimes i'm tempted to stay around just for the sex but its different for me, feelings can grow... What to do?

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    Well, by sleeping with him you are just digging yourself in a bigger hole-so if sadness and guilt and is what you want-go ahead and sleep with him. But, if you want to be happy in the long run and want to be mature about this-walk away! Walking away is in your best interested, as you are only his POA-not someone he can see a relationship with-well at least for right now, and if you continue to ride his horse-you'll become too attached, and it'll become unbearable for you, but since this is the beginning,you can make a 160 degree turn and learn to be firm and not give into temptation, and be happy in the long run-at least you'll have the memories-some can't even get a booty call-lol. So, just walk away, but before you do-tell him that he knows where he can find you, I'm sure he'll get the hint that if he ever considers a relationship with you-you'll be there ready to make things work. Let him go, you can't make him stay and want ther same thing you want-if it's meant to be; if he realizes your more than a POA-and realizes he wants more, he'll come find you and tell you-but it is time itself that will say so and therefore you just got to walk away and can't force him into something he doesn't want now-he can slowly find he's way back, if he realize that want he wants is to be with you.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Perhaps the most important thing here is not the age difference but the readiness to have a serious relationship.

    You are ready. And he may not be ready.

    But repeated sex usually does create feelings of affection and connection in both women and men. He may be feeling the same way as you are. And if the two of keep coming back to each other for more and more sessions, then perhaps both of you will want to have a serious relationship.

    I personally know one couple where the woman is 8 years older than her husband. They've been married for 20 years now. And they are still happy with each other.

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  • 1 decade ago

    My husband is 5 years older than me. We met 17 years ago...It was a 1 night stand also. We ended up sleeping together a few more times till it got to the point I moved it. We have been together every since and are so much in love with 3 kids. Neither one of us were looking for a relationship. SO.....yes it can be more and it can be beautiful.

    Good luck

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  • 1 decade ago

    Wow....sounds like you got yourself into a fix....unfortunately the rules tend to be layed out before the game begins....it is difficult to want to start playing the game differently in the middle of the game and have everyone agree to the rule changes...It is better to lay these things out first...that is why you don't play the one night stand game in the first place....hook up with someone that wants to play the relationship only game right from the get go....

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  • 1 decade ago

    It sounds like a situation where how you feel for him will stay different from how he feels about you. You may develop strong feelings for him but he may never feel anything for you and in the end you'd just be used for sex. You shouldnt put yourself in that kind of misery, it hurts enough for somebody not to feel the same about you and being used will just add to it. Sounds to me like he wont be ready to commit for a while. Unless he falls in love with you it sounds like a situation where you wont get anywhere with him other than sex.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    he's already told u that he isnt looking to be tied down. he's also 9 yrs younger. things might change and happen, but the odds are most likely stacked against u.

    at his age, i'd most likely gamble that he sees u as a 'booty call' when needed...he'll just look for u in the club when he's on the hunt. he's just lookin to get laid, nsa sex. just be careful to use protection; a guy like that will bail on u if things go wrong.

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  • 1 decade ago

    well what do you want to do? I've met guys the same way then develop feelings for them, if I wanted to be with them I would be, if I didn't I would tell them and offer to help them find someone else (don't say it was cold, I united a happy couple one night). It depends on ya

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  • 1 decade ago

    Women have feelings,their heart bom, bom bom,when it comes to men. But men, when it comes to easy prey women their penis is bom,bom,bom. If you are looking for sex,men is the game.You can score big time on that. But relationship, tough,,,,,men wants decent woman for a loving relationship.huh no wonder all the cute women in the red light are not making in business, 'cause you are giving it for FREE.

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  • OC
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    It looks like he made it clear, he needs sex only. It is unlikely he is going to change his opinion in the future. You are only going to get hurt if you will wait and hope for more.

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  • Enjoy the sex and realize that it is nothing more than sex. When the emotions sneak into the situation, its time to move on.

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