so deppress... why is no one helping me?

hello guys or gals who have been answering my quetions, even some of you didnt help much with your answer... today life 4 me are short... just discovered i've got brain cancer.. doc advise me to have an operation, but wat's the use tat even after the operation am going to die in all means.. no wonder im always angry, n too emotional... no one cares, well... my husband will be over joyed i guess tat im going to die as he does not have to handle me as his 2nd wives... like he always used to say i'm very complicated... but people dun knw wat i've been through.. i've been molest by my own dad.. told my mum but she juz do nothing coz she's afraid.. i got married to some1 i did'nt love or knw when im 13.. had a daughter when im 14... divorced when im 16, had my 2nd marrige in august 2006... tat is now im the 2nd wife to some1 i trully loves... i had a painfull childhood memories.. tat i cant deleted frm my mind... no one cares

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  • Liz
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    You should look into some serious professional counselling.

  • 1 decade ago

    Believe me we do care, but, what can we do or say to make things better and make the cancer go away...? That is why, I think, that people do not respond, and it is not to be rude or uncaring, even though it migh seem that way.

    I am so very sorry that your life has not been an easy one to say the least. I wish that I could give you life changing advice. I wish that I could make all the pain go away along with the bad memories. No one should have to endure what you have gone through.

    I would have the surgery, there might be a chance and that is what I would have to hold on to the chance and the hope...No matter how small the hope maybe, hang on to it!

    I hope and pray that 2007 will be a great year full of miracles for you!

  • 1 decade ago

    Awww, I'm so sorry to hear about all that. But no matter what you may think, there are a TON of people out there who love you and would be willing to go to the end of the world to make you happy. But the thing is, people are born with depression. It's not something you can truly get over. I'm a teenager and for the past few years I have been depressed and hated the world. You just have to let time settle it. Good luck and I hope you can move on eventually! ;-)

  • 1 decade ago

    I am so sorry for all the sadness that you have been through in your life. That would explain why you are depressed. I don't know where you live but you need to find a good person to talk to that can help you deal with all these terrible problems that you have been put through. If you belong to a church ask there if there is a counseling service available and take advantage of this chance to sort through you troubles. You have been through a lot of pain in your life and it sounds like you are also trying to deal with a lot now. You don't need to do this on your own. Talk to your doctor and tell him you need help and someone to talk to professionally. You need to find out what kind of operation he is going to do. There are so many services for those with cancer such as Hospice. Check with the hospital and ask for any help that you can. You don't need to face everything on your own. I have read some of your answers and you are a smart, intuitive lady who has had some bad things happen to you. Please find someone to talk with and to help you realize that you are truly a miracle and that you deserve all the best . God bless.

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  • 1 decade ago

    You are a very strong and brave lady. I am sorry if your life has been cut short. Many of us have been through terrible trials as you have-referring to the molestation. Mine was a teacher. I got married young and had kids too. Can you contact Make a Wish Foundation? Make your last days with your kids really count. They are part of you carried on after you go. I have watched many die from cancer. Young children and old people. It is non-discriminative. If the operation or chemo/radiation can help, try. If not, make sure they keep you comfortable. You are not alone.

  • 1 decade ago

    My sister is a 15 year survivor of cancer--you need to think positive and stop all of the negative thinking-I am sorry to hear what your father did to you-it was not your fault- remember that you were a child-you will never forget what happen to you but you have to go on living for your child and yourself-if you have the surgery take the Lord in there with you-the surgeon will handle the instruments but God will guide his hands and you will be alright-we are all going to die someday but as long as there is a chance for you take it-God always take care of his children-believe in him and you will be fine and ask him to take all of those painful memories away-he can do it-he can do anything but fail-trust in him

  • 1 decade ago

    if you have brain cancer, then I am sure that your doctor told you that you would experience some personality changes, and yes depression is one of them, You might talk to some one about all of your bad feelings and about your past abuse as plainly you haven't gotten past all the pain that it caused. No one is guaranteed a long and happy life, only you can change your thinking , and your best chance is if you live every day like it is your last, because one day it will, and do you really want your last day spent crying over what happened many years ago and not one bit of it can be changed, it is past history, so leave it there. today is a new day, be grateful for it and be happy, it is all about the choices you allow in your mind,

  • 1 decade ago

    OMG! thats trully hard 2 deal with theres really nothing i can say cuz i cant hold a candle 2 what has heppened 2 u so all i can really tell u is pray...and ill pray 4 u 2.....and just tray the surgery if u believe in miricles anything is possible

  • 1 decade ago

    YOU KNOW WHAT? NOBODY KNOWS WHEN THEY GONNA DIE. PEOPLE ARE WALKING AND HIT BY SOMETHING AND DIE OR EATING FOOD AND GET CHOKE AND DIE. SO WHAT I AM TRYING TO TELL YOU THAT THOSE PEOPLE DON'T KNOW AND THEY HAVE SHORT LIFE. SO LIFE IS SHORT FOR EVERY ONE ANY WAY, SO WHY NOT LIVE IT YOUR FULLEST? WHY WORRY ABOUT TOMORROW OR NEXT MINUTE? TRY TO TAKE ONE DAY AT A TIME. IF YOU ARE POSITIVE, THEN POSITIVE THINGS WILL HAPPEN TO YOU TOO. HAVE FAITH AND TRY TO BE HAPPY. THERE IS SO MUCH POWER IN POSITIVE ATTITUDE AND PRAYERS. SO MANY PEOPLE ARE STILL LIVING WITH CANCER LIKE YOURS. I WILL PRAY TO GOD FOR YOU. I AM SORRY FOR YOUR PAST AND YOUR CHILDHOOD. BUT YOU KNOW WHAT? YOU WERE STRONG BEFORE AND YOU SHOULD BE STRONG NOW. I KNOW YOU WILL GET THROUGH THIS TOO. YOUR DAUGHTER NEEDS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY NEEDS YOU TOO. THEY CAN NOT SEE YOU SUFFERING TOO. SO HELP THEM MAKING YOU HAPPY AND BE HAPPY YOUR SELF. GOD BLESS YOU ALL.

  • 1 decade ago

    CRY

    When you cry I cry we all cry, thugs they pour out liquor to help ease the pain a little quicker, some they get high just to get by and some they lash out just to keep from acting out. White brown or yellow its still the same were all just trying to keep from going insane. Rich man poor man its still knocking at your door man that’s why even someone as blind as Stevie or Ray can still feel your pain. That’s why when you cry I cry we all cry, kids they kick up static just to let you know that they’ve had it. Dads they tend to get a little brollic just to let you know that they’ll install it and mommies they give mad love to help ease the pain. It’s the same around the globe at least that’s what I’ve seen and I’ve been told that’s why it shouldn’t be any wonder that I can feel your pain, that’s why when you cry I cry we all cry.

  • tas211
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    I know several people who have survived cancer. Don't give up like that. Do you know that children have a much higher survival rate the adults? You know why that is? Because they don't get all freaked out about "cancer". They don't go into it with all the negative attitudes. It is possible to survive cancer.

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