Past Child Abuse Question?

When I was 16, (now I'm 24), I was caught having sex with my boyfriend. Yes thats too young, I know. Well my father pulled down my pants and used his belt to spank my bare butt repeatedly, leaving welts. It hurt to sit down for at least a week that I remember. This is in the state of TN. At that time, my parents said not to tell, that I would be put in foster care and that would be worse. I have never forgotten this and I was wondering what would have probably actually happened if I had reported it?

13 Answers

  • 1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    You may well have been taken out of the home for that. It really depends on the rules in the state where you resided at the time.

    That is an unfortunate event to have happened in your life at the time. I am sorry to hear about it.

  • Mr Ed
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    Regarding the boyfriend, a lot would depend on his age. Regarding your father, just 8 years ago, it's possible some judges would have removed you from the home and put you in foster care. I'm not sure. It would take a pretty dumb judge to do that, but I heard about a small boy who was arrested in one state because he helped his baby sister pee in the back yard! So everything is possible.

    I doubt your father did you any lasting harm. Hopefully he convinced you not to repeat the stupidity of having sex with a guy at that age.

    - If I had been the father, I might have gone for the guy though. Hard to say how violent I could have been. I'm only glad I was never put in that position.

  • As a parent I would have to say it was not the right choice that is I have cgone threw a course because I did some thing of that sort with my step daughter and this day in age it is consider wrong but years ago it was not. I had to learn the hard way I guess.

    but the I will I did learn a lot for my course but then my step daughter turns around and asks why I dont spank the youngest.

    to me it's a real catch 22

    Source(s): a parent
  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    If it happened before about 1975 probably nothing. There was not an awareness of child abuse then that there is now. I too remember spankings and how it scarred me emotionally. I remember screaming and my heart breaking as my parents hit me. I can't believe parents would it their own kids!

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  • wishon
    Lv 4
    4 years ago

    no they gained't try this. it extremely is against the regulation of mentioned consent. all therapists be attentive to approximately that, each and every difficulty which you communicate approximately shall all be inner optimum and would desire to be saved secret from something of the worldwide. (not till ultimately they have your consent). if in an occasion that he/she recommended the newborn centers approximately it without your consent, you would be able to sue the guy. whether, a therapist shall never carry out an act, they're knowledgeable and are suitable knowledgeable, such acts could be pointless and anomalous. so do not situation. have a effective day! ^_^

  • Sara
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    Only for a day or so if even at all.

    I think your parents were worried because child abuse has become a witch hunt and many parents fear being accused of an offense they aren't guilty of.

  • 1 decade ago

    Like your parents said you probably would have been put in foster care

  • 1 decade ago

    probable nothing back then and get over it you are too old to be thinking about that. i got belted once or twice too and for good reasons too just like you. having sex at 16. so get over it that is just what happened back then. i am sure you turned out sweetie.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Your father would have more than likely been put in jail and your boyfriend more than likely would be doing 10 to 20 for rape.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    statute of limitations is over 3 or 7 years you take your pick...

    wondering what would have happened wont help you get over it

    a good counsler might though...

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