I broke up with him months ago, I have few friends left, I'm lonely and bored. I want understanding.?

I think I just want to tell my story. It is not so sad, but I am sad because of it. here is a bit.

I moved to a new state, knowing no-one. I fell for a guy, we had an on-and-off relationship for 12 years.

I broke up with him 9 months ago.

I thought I would be over the depression by now.

Hello, its new years eve. I don't mind being alone so much, but it kills me that im still thinking about him. not just today, but everyday after 9 months!

my main goal for dropping him: he consistently showed preferential treatment with his friends over the years. this made me not like his friends. which made them not like me. I should mention: his popularity always superseded mine in the bar scene.

I thought he was my soul mate, because, despite the preferential treatment, he loved me physically and mentally as I never experienced before.

I am home alone tonight and every night since our break up. I have a very small group of fair weather friends left.

I'm sad. talk me out of this. HELP

Update:

wow you people are fast on the reflex.

In general it is true, I should go out and explore places that I know are gay friendly and I know he does not attend. They do exist, despite the small town I live in. Not tonight, though. I just started on a vodka and tomato juice.

I realize I'm not alone with being hurt by love. I do think it good for me to say it out loud, FINALLY. I don't like my other options sitting around in my head.

Thanks for hearing my hurt.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    I t doesn't sound as if he is having the same reaction. There are some hurts in your life that you never truly get over...it's sorta like a broken leg..it heals and you walk again..but you always limp a little...Your feelings will pass..This is also a very hard time of the year to be alone. To me you left him for all the right reasons--but I guess that doesn't help much does it? I never thought I would ever meet anyone ever again...he dumped me for someone else after 7 years..yes, it still hurts...BUT I have been in a 20 year relationship now and everyday is good...I was 36 when I got dumped..I thought my life was over...far from it. and Happy New Year.

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  • Seeker
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    1 decade ago

    Lots of good advice above which I won't repeat. Just want to say you're keeping your "cup" full and whatever the reason you WILL have to empty it before you can refill it with something new. Maybe you're not quite ready to do this yet. But maybe soon. Maybe consider changing your nickname to something more flattering. And forget all those other options sitting around in your head which you say you don't like. You're right not to like them. A year from now you'll likely look back on today and realize that everything progressed exactly as it was meant to. Good luck to you.

    "You are a child of the universe,

    no less than the trees and the stars;

    you have a right to be here.

    And whether or not it is clear to you,

    no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

    Therefore be at peace with God,

    whatever you conceive Him to be,

    and whatever your labors and aspirations,

    in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.

    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,

    it is still a beautiful world.

    Be cheerful.

    Strive to be happy."

    -Max Erhmann, Desiderata, 1927 (an excerpt)

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  • 1 decade ago

    There's no reason why you have to sit there and feel sad about it. Go out and have fun. Go to some club where the music will be good and dance. No one will know or care that you showed up by yourself, in fact you're more likely to meet new people that way. When you start having fun again, with or without a significant other in your life, you will attract more friends. I'm only sitting here answering questions because I have a sore throat, but I'm going out later anyway because who wants to sit at home on New Years Eve?

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  • 1 decade ago

    Ummm I think you need to get out more. You said he's big in the bar scene right? Well, he's prolly out having a ton of fun and ur just sitting around moping. Go out and have fun. Go to clubs and make yourself meet someone, even if you don't want to. Don't sit home and mope, you'll never get a man that way.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Why did you break up with him? What did he do? And maybe if you're still thinking about him a lot than you still love him. But don't be sad that you're alone tonight. Use the time to relax. Take a bubble bath or something. :)

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  • 1 decade ago

    call him, let him know how you feel, your nto going to get anywere with that kind of attitude, and if nothing happens, then its realy not ment to be, srry, but like the old saying: "Theres other fishes in the sea"

    good luck and happy new years!!!!

    hope ya have a happy year!

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    tell him!! that way he would know..

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