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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsMarriage & Divorce · 1 decade ago

what is the likelihood of my husband getting custody of my kids if we divorce? i am the primary caretaker.help

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  • kp
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago
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    If he’s going to fight you on custody, you need to talk to an attorney.

    I assume your kids are young. Years ago, Mom always got custody when the children were young unless she was unfit. And some judges (especially older ones) do still follow that ‘tender years’ doctrine. But NOW men are SUPPOSED to be treated equally in custody cases. And in some states the ‘tender years’ doctrine has been ruled unconstitutional because it’s discrimination against men.

    A court can make a custody decision based on who has been the primary care giver for the children OR the decision can be based on other factors. Why? Because basing a decision strictly on that is clearly favorable to those women that had the luxury of being stay-at-mothers and could work against those women who have chosen to/had to work outside the home.

    Bottom line… more and more courts these days are awarding joint custody.

  • 1 decade ago

    If you are the primary caretaker and if you aren't doing drugs or drinking too much or having men over all the time, or doing anything else considered a bad example for the children, then the likelihood of your husband getting full custody is slim. Be sure to get a good lawyer.

  • 1 decade ago

    Don't put all your eggs in one basket. Think positive, talk positive, and get positive results! Do your research on the internet. I don't think it should matter about the primary caretaker. Think of the childrens best interest here because that is what frame of mind the judge is going to be in. You can do anything you put your mind to. I don't know what the circumstances are but your husband (soon to be ex) needs to realize that he doesn't need to remain your husband to be a father. I would stress that I would want my children to remain together. Pray and ask God for guidance. Do know he will never leave you nor foresake you. Ask and it shall be answered. When some doors shut others open. Think positive...

  • lynda
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    I would say pretty slim..Most courts give custody to the mother, not that the father can't take care of them also..but mothers usually win. Also you are the primary caretaker, they will take that into account also.. What you might want to do is have joint custody. that way you both can have equal time with them.. What you need to do is work out something that is good for all of you.especailly the children. good luck

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  • 1 decade ago

    ITs very unlikely that he would get total custody unless he is the primary care giver. He will have to pay you child support. They only exception is if he can prove you are morally or physically unfit to care for the kids, but that would be hard to do if you are the primary care giver and you have always done it. find a good lawyer.

  • Anonymous
    4 years ago

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  • 1 decade ago

    Don't just expect that the judge will do the right thing. This is the best site I know for moms under custodial stress.

    Custody Preparation for Moms

    http://www.custodyprepformoms.org/

  • 1 decade ago

    This is a hot button topic.

    Honestly you should go for joint custody. It's what is best for the kids 95% of the time.

    This should be about the kids not you or your husband.

  • 1 decade ago

    Typically, they go with the mother unless the father can prove her unfit. But you'll probably get joint custody instead of full custody. You'll have to check with you lawyer on how your state is.

  • Catie
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    In most states they will go with the mom. Get alimony from him too if you can. He would have to prove you unfit to get custody of them from you. Just dont say anything to persuade the kids one way or the other it could back fire on you just be the best mom you can and it will show

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