Teaching manners to my to my boyfriend?
My boyfriend is 25, and he crosses his fork and knife at the dinner table. I talked to him about it, as it could be seen as bad manners at a restaurant especially with a work client or employer, and that it is good manners to put the knife and fork together. But he continues to basically throw them on his plate. What would you do? Should I remind him each time. I don't want to sound like his mother.
I'm not leaving him just because he doesn't have good table manners. That's crazy, I couldn't find anyone better. It's not a big problem. I'm just looking out for him, as his family didn't teach him about table manners. I want to inform him about it, but not pester him. I agree about one of the answers. I've said something, and now it's up to him to correct himself if he chooses to.
- JCLv 71 decade agoFavorite Answer
As an older, long-married woman, my advice to you is, pick your battles. And believe me, this shouldnt be one of them. There will be a million things he will do that may annoy you or you may find rude or just simply drive you to drink. But why fight over every little thing? This is too small to argue over. Youve told him. If someone in the future finds it rude and tells him so, then maybe you can throw a "I told you so" at him. But youve said your piece. Let it go now.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Wow. So this is a deal breaker for you? Let him go. And realize, the next time around, that you get the guy warts and all... if you keep this guy, accept that he is going to use his knife and fork any old way he chooses. And leave him alone. If you are "embarrassed" about his manners in a work client... then don't take him to dinner with your work clients. As for eating in any old restaurant...trust me... the snobs at the other table have their OWN problems and should be too busy to worry about what your man did with his knife and fork... if it DOES bother them, then you are hanging around the kind of people that care more about appearance than they do good relationships.... hmmmm...
- fancynameLv 61 decade ago
Ummmmmmmmmmmm lets put it this way. If the only thing you have on him is crossing his knife and fork he has the goods on you for being a pretentious snob. Why do you feel you need to nit pick on something so small?
- 1 decade ago
Nothing wrong with teaching someone culture. He should appreciate a girl who shows him the fine things in life! Honestly though...this may be only about table manners, but he may not be the man for you. It sounds like you are ready for a more sophisticated type (say: European). No offense, just my opinion.
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- VanniliLv 61 decade ago
Ignore it , the more you tell him, the more he will antagonize you. And that sounds nagging. If that bothers you dump him and get a boyfriend who knows table manners.I don't mind how he place his fork and knife as long as he does't chew his food while his mouth is open,does'nt talk while his mouth is full.
- 1 decade ago
Are you kidding me? Crossing his fork? Are you dating him or his manners? Seems to me you are stuck on what people think of your "boyfriend" instead of who your bf is inside. I would understand if he didn't have respect for elders or something like that but crossing his fork? Are you kidding me? Do you really care for this guy or are you just worried what people think of him? Good luck!
- Gordita de OroLv 41 decade ago
you think can't teach an old dog new tricks...your boyfriend is 25...he is already grown up and it will be pretty hard for you to teach him some manners...but you could try...if he is used to doing something he will eventually go back to doing it even if he does what you teach him a couple of times
- cobrasnakeLv 61 decade ago
If you told him already,forget about it.He knows what he needs to do.It is better to have a relationship in peace,than start to fight or discuss for a simple good manner,that he knows he has to do well.Good question.
- 1 decade ago
I thinks it's too late not to sound like his mother..... As long as he doesn't scrape the plate, slurp his soup, or chew with his mouth open, leave him alone.
- SLWritesLv 51 decade ago
Leave the man alone. You've explained it, now it is up to him to change it. Now it is your job to ignore it and not let it bother you. If you can't do that, find another boyfriend who doesn't do that, rather than torture this one.