How do I win her heart?

I'm a 41 year old male. A year 1/2 ago a friend of mine wanted me to meet her younger sister, 36. After a month of asking me to meet her I agreed and to my suprise I'm VERY attracted to her. She's the type if you ask her out she needs a months notice to prepare. I'm fine with that. We've been out 5 or 6 times, club dinner movie. I recently saw her again at a party her sister was throwing. Even though her ENTIRE family was there, she chose to sit with me for 5 hours. Two weeks later to my suprise she invites me to her company christmas party. I took her, we had a good time. Gave her a small gift, cashmere scarf & gloves for her to open on xmas.I suprised her.I don't think she new what to think.I haven't heard from her since. If she liked the gift or not. I call but all I get is voicmail. She said she'd go out again but after the new year. I know she's busy but could she just be cautious? Testing me? Am I wasting my time? We have a lot in common and she's always on my mind. Help!

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  • KIMBUR
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    1 decade ago
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    I wonder with the comment "we;ll go out again after new years" if theres something you dont know about going on possibly a guy or an issue that she might think isnt to attractive on some level? or maybe you need some more close time maybe if you havnt made any small or large sexual advances she doesnt think you like her like that I hope thats not it but some woman think that way even when they shouldnt. all I know is something is there or more like in the way have you talked enough to know if she has had alot of bad experiences or one to the point she's in no hurry to adjust her ok life for that again who knows, I think its gonna boil down to good old cant have a relationship without it communication, I guess you can either keep wondering or get alittle more pushy in the right way, good luck Kim

  • 1 decade ago

    It sounds like she isnt used to the idea of dating someone seriously. She likes you, that is clear. The xmas gift was sweet, but unexpected and she might have felt awkward that she had nothing for you. Now for her rude behavior. No one is that busy. If she needs a month lead time, she is still dating other people and its obvious she had plans for the New Year. She is deliberatly putting space there. It could be that she is deciding which is good news for you. Call after the New Year, make a date and see what happens. If she says no, leave it alone. Keep it to yourself for now that you really like her, she is running as it is.

  • 1 decade ago

    did she give you anything on xmas?? She could be busy but she has your number too and if she wants to go out with you she can call as well. Did she call you regularly before?? You can leave her 1 or 2 messages but that's it, dont overdo it, yes she may be testing you to see how much you are into her. Give her some time if she wants you she will call maybe one day when she has nothing to do or wants some company or someone to talk to, just give it some time, and play it cool, dont tell her you like her

  • This is what I think... you should wait.. it takes women time to decide what they want... and maybe that is what this lady is doing. I know if you give her time, she will come around. Most women are like that, they don't want to just jump right in and see what happens. It takes women a while to decide whether something is right for them or not. I do not believe that you are wasting your time. Good luck!!!

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  • 1 decade ago

    Give her some time. Call a couple of days after the new year. If she doesn't return your calls, move on.Good luck.

  • 1 decade ago

    just go for it. Its been a year and a half. tell her how you feel, you just told us. lol you have nothing to lose and a lot to gain. the worst she could say is no shes not interested but if she sat and talked to you for 5 hours, believe me she is in to you plus she invited you out to a work party. tell her.......strait out..... how you feel about her. quit wasting your time go for it.. good luck

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Try Charm and sincerity. And ask her siblings for her schedule and *accidentally* meet her at lunch .

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    BE PATIENT......eagle powers will come to you.

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