Why wont he commit to me? Been together 2 1/2 years and have a 7 month old. We also live together.?

I think he hates me, yet I have done nothing to deserve the cold shoulder one minute and then the next he's sensitive.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    I was with a man I had 2 children with, lived with for 10 long years, he acted the very same way and he would not marry me to save his life, and you know what I did? I left him, moved on, and found a wonderful man whom I am now happily married to. Good Luck.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I think you need to define "commitment." Do you want to get married? Is that the only form of commitment you believe in? Cuz commitment is him coming home every night. Commitment is paying bills, taking care of the child, sitting on the couch with you, putting up with PMS, helping out, listening, and BEING there. You might be getting the cold shoulder cuz he isn't ready to make that marriage move.... and he is feeling pressured to do something he's not ready to do just yet. Maybe he thinks you don't appreciate the commitment he HAS made to you. At some point down the road, you can show him the advantages of being married... the social security it will provide you... as well as your child... should something happen to him.... the questions your own child will answer when he/she grows up.... all of that. But you need to redefine commitment. He sounds like he is already committed to you... you just don't know it.

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  • 1 decade ago

    first off he has commited to you if you live together and are raising a child. What he hasnt done is commit to you legally. I am assuming he is not dating other people while living with you. SO your question is why isnt he willing to make this legal which could be a lot of things. He may feel he was trapped into the relationship, he may feel its his last hold on being free, he seems confused. Instead of talking to us about this talk to HIM. Make sure you tell him you know he has made the emotional committment that you are just asking about the legal one. Tell him why its important to you and your child.

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  • 3 years ago

    ouch!! i in my opinion married for scientific coverage purposes too. Me and my spouse had a toddler yet as quickly as that hepened she now no longer had scientific coverage. She already had a toddler of her very own. I parent, nicely, might as nicely marry her because of the fact i did no longer want to bypass away her and my son with out coverage. My daughter might have been lined because of the fact she is blood appropriate. I parent, i became going to marry her in any case so does it certainly count if is this week or a 365 days from now? i think of he merely isn't waiting to marry you. He does not want to. Why else might he no longer marry you? i think of you ought to placed this on the table and make clean the place precisely you and him stand. tutor one yet another card because of the fact it is a vital determination. it relatively is interior the direction of the confusing circumstances that yu get to tutor your genuine love for someone. Valentines day, a visit here and there, a ring, it is all meaningless. those are issues each and all of us can purchase in the event that they shop sufficient money. Love, affection, friendship, being there in circumstances of want now!! it is a few thing distinctive and particular. So, you like o confer with this boy to be sure the place you stand reason you do no longer want to be dropping a while with somebody who won't be there once you like him.

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  • 1 decade ago

    What type of commitment are you seeking from him? The main commitment that you need to make is to yourself and to your 7 month old. If your guy wants to be bi-polar you can do bad by yourself.

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  • Dotr
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    The younger a guy is the more distant they seem. Talk to him and get him to say what he feels. You both need to have a job and work tord goals & dreams together for the benefit of 3 of you!!!!

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  • 1 decade ago

    Sounds like you picked a jerk... plus you made the mistake of giving him everything without requiring a commitment, so why on earth would he give you one now?

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  • JC
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    Have you ever heard the expression "Why buy the cow when you're getting the milk for free?"

    Besides, why do you want a guy who treats you that way?

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  • 1 decade ago

    Why would he buy the cow when he can get the milk for free?

    Maybe you should have thought about that question beforehand.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Ummm, he lives with you, that's why. Give Dr. Laura a call.

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