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What is your definition of love? And do you think it's more of a decision or a feeling?

25 Answers

  • enki
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    i would like to think that Love is a decision, or merely a type of feeling. but none of them seem to fit perfectly of what Love really means.

    so i guess i'd leave love as a big ?

    it starts & ends with question....

    that's why we keep looking for it's definition,

    simply because nobody has ever found it.

  • 1 decade ago

    This is such a profound subject and the question is so hard to answer because I believe that we all have a different perspective on what love is.

    From my own experience in life (I am now 68) I would define Love as a state of Being in which rational thoughts have no part. It is a sensation within ones innermost Being wherein you feel a special connection with another Being that has little to do with the others looks, gender, age, interests, behaviour or sexual attraction.

    I do not believe that it can exist only in one direction - it must be a mutual connection.

    It is not something that you can make or break. It happens at a level way beyond the mind.

    Loving someone does not mean that you necessarily have a good practical relationship with them. In fact it might work better to marry someone you just like a lot and are highly compatible with rather than someone you love. Out of that relationship Love could materialize.

    I believe that the profound expression of Love can also occur between humans and animals.

    Source(s): Personal experience and thoughts and much reading.
  • Bill
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    Love is both a decision and a feeling. Most important is the decision part. Actually a series of decisions. Feelings can be undependable and change with changes in circumstances. With regard to romantic love, or love of a person, love is a commitment to another person that can be strong enough to demand self-sacrifice if need be. It is a commitment that can cause you to forget yourself because the other has become so important. Love occurs in response to a lot of things, like attraction (often called "chemistry"), admiration, mutual interests, reminders of people you have known, and long time association (you raise kids, you grow to have affection for them)--and many other possible factors. Love, though, in essence, defies definition. So my effort here is only an approximation.

  • 1 decade ago

    Love Is an emotion, You can make a decision on whether you will follow your heart and let the Love bloom, But, It is a Feeling, first and foremost. The best definition of Love is that I know of is that it is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own. Simple enough, right?

    Enjoy, And Happy New Year!

    Uncle Mike

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  • 1 decade ago

    You pose such an interesting question. In the past, I would have said that it was more of a feeling. But now I think that it's a decision based on the experience you're having with the object of your affection. You decide that someone is worthy of your love, after they've earned it with their behavior towards you. Once the decision has been reached after a certain amount of testing, then you allow yourself to feel love for that other.

  • 1 decade ago

    Love changes as you grow older. When I was about 20 the swirling heady feeling of longing for her ( not just lust but for her whole personality) was all important and ultimately lead to marriage and children who in turn were loved but in a different way. The psychologists do not even classify love as a prinary basic emotion but, I think, put it in under the feeling associated with the sexual drive like a hunger or a thirst to be satisfied. Of course it is much more than that as one finds out with experience and age.

    Love is an act of the good will. You can even love another or a group if you have a deep feeling of hate for him or her or it by willing oneself to do a kind act for or toward them in spite of your dislike! I think this is what Christ was calling on us to do when he admonished us to forgive and love ones enemies. Most people think it is weakness but it usually has a quite surprising positive effect on the "beloved"? In this sense love is a decision of the mind to act out of good will.

    And on a theological scale the Bible states that God is love and if you have ever felt the loving feeling coming over one, a feeling of awe, wonder, and reverence for the cause of this universe when looking at the stars on a moonless night or gazing through a microscope at the inner swirling mystery of a living cell you will know what I mean. It is here a feeling of love so deep that it canot be duplicated by the mind at will. It is here a decision but not your decision.

    Source(s): An old man who has loved and hated and acted.
  • YD
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    Love is defined as the confluence of two souls , past the physical , intellectual and emotional barriers . Love is neither a conscientious decision or a superficial feeling. It is nearest to experiencing the creator.

    ( Unfortunately Love is used loosely mostly to describe either a physical or an emotional feeling. Such love is incomplete. It is really "Like" and not "Love" . The two central letters , O, V needs to get inbetween L and E.

  • 1 decade ago

    You know, Batty isn't completely wrong. When you meet a person who really GETS you and you feel they won't hurt you, you "decide" to open yourself up for strong feelings. Not that it's a conscious thing, just a gut instinct - recognition on a subconscious level. How that relationship plays out is another story - people can wreck love with mistrust and fear. But the REAL THING - head over heels? It's overwhelming and rare and should be treated with respect and care, because it doesn't come along more than a couple of times in life.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Love is a profound feeling of tender affection for or intense attraction to another. People in love are often considered to have "good" interpersonal chemistry. Love is described as a deep, ineffable feeling shared in passionate or intimate interpersonal relationships. In different contexts, however, the word love has a variety of related but distinct meanings: in addition to romantic love, which is characterized by a mix of emotional and sexual desire, other forms include platonic love, religious love, familial love, and the more casual application of the term to anyone or anything that one considers strongly pleasurable, enjoyable, or desirable, including activities and foods. This diverse range of meanings in a single word is commonly contrasted with the plurality of Greek words for Love, reflecting the word's versatility and complexity.-

  • Kdude
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    - Love starts with freindship.

    - Love grows with time.

    - Love is a feeling.

    - Love thrives on decision to put each other first and foremost.

    - Love a commitment to work through the difficult times.

    - Love is sometimes being able to even love the other person when you are mad at them.

    - Love is communication.

    - Love is hard.

    - Love is being sad when you are apart.

    - Love is hurting when your partner is hurting.

    - Love is pain and suffering.

    - Love is worth all the hard times.

    - Love is joy

    - Love is wonderful if you can be adult enough to make it work.

    Love is both a feeling and a decision to love, not just to be loved!


    Happy New years!

    From myself and my boyfriend of 9 years!

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