what can i do about my bf movin in with mr after the baby is born>??
ok me and my boyfriend will be havin a baby in september and i was woundering if by law i can move in with him or can he move in with me but we both are only 15 and i wanna have him live with me and the baby my house is big enough and do u think by law that the law will let him live with before the baby is born and idk if he can but iwll fight anyone to have him live with me i mean isnt it out choice to decide sence where havin the baby??
- Anonymous1 decade agoFavorite Answer
thats up to your parents or whoevers roof youre living under. and i dunno if you'll have much say yet cause you're only 15. but yeah he has to be a part of the baby's life and i'm sure you're parents wont mind having him come over but he doesnt need to live there..
- 1 decade ago
Well, there aren't any laws out there that I have heard of that would meritt any legal reason that he would have to live with you. I would assume that you live with your parents and you want the father of your child to live with you and your parents don't. I have never heard of such a law. THe only way is if you were married and at your age, that isn't legal unless your parents sign and consent for it. That is great that you both love eachother and are anxious to be committed partners in raising your child's life, and it will be very important to do so for the rest of your lives because you will always have this child. As hard as it may seem and as much as you probably don't like to hear it, you are only fifteen and should listen to your parents because they are who are responsible for you. I had my first child at 19 and while that was older than you obviously, I can relate on how you must feel the need for support, especially from the father. The road to becoming a parent is bittersweet. It can be scary and wonderful at the same time. I agree you should be able to choose, but since you are only 15, the law is just not in your favor since its designed to protect you. I have no idea your level of maturity, but in most cases, the majority of 15 year olds simply don't have the mentality, finances or education to independently raise a family. If you aren't getting the support you need from your parent's, friends and other family, contact your local pregnancy crises center or WIC office. THey give you free counseling, let you know all your options, laws, types of health care available to you in your state and most give free baby supplies and prenatal care! There are lots of help out there for single and young mothers, take all you can get and take care of yourself and that beautiful baby! Good LuckSource(s): Mother of Two!
- melfred_20Lv 41 decade ago
Are you moving in together alone or together like with your mom. You shouldn't move in together alone cause i don't think that wouldn't work so well. If he's moving in to your parents house then it's all up to your parents and you'll have to live by there rules. And to get married just because you have a kid together is not a good idea. You should get married because you honestly love each other and for the right reasons. It's no fun getting a divorces a few years down the road because you felt obligated to get married.
- 1 decade ago
I don't know if it's a law, but if he's committed to taking care of your child he should be living with you.
But apart from the advice making it sound like I'm okay with this, I have to say that children completely change your life. In more ways than one. You'll be broke, you won't sleep, etc. Not to mention that your education has pretty much dissolved into nothingness. But, since I don't know the situation, I won't say more than that.
I really wish you 2(3) the best of luck.
And I think that your family will want the best for your baby, so they should let him move in but only to take care of the baby.
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- shoes_717Lv 41 decade ago
You are still considered a child in America. Having a baby does not give you adult status. Your parents make the decisions.
- 1 decade ago
well, i definitely think that u should move in w/ him because he should help raise what he created, but it depends if you have consent from your parent(s), if you do then i think your right on w/ the law, but i don't think you should run away . you may want to sit down w/ your parent(s) and figure out this hole situation, and if you live together in the future use some kind of protection, to get advice on that you can go to a planned parenthood close to you but please, continue w/ your education, you deserve to go on and go to collage.
- *♥♫Hedy♫♥*Lv 61 decade ago
I don't know what the laws are where you live,but that would be up to your and his parents.Focus on your baby. Good luck to you,your boyfriend and your new baby.
- chiekoLv 41 decade ago
He needs to marry you not "move in" with you. He already made one mistake by getting you pregnant out of marriage. Don't let him continue to disrespect you and your baby by not being a husband and real father.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
well if you are not married to each other, it is better to get married before you both get on with your life, and the same time before your child grows up. you know people likes other people advice, but listen its your life and no one tells you what to do since you both love each other.
- 1 decade ago
first of all, u shouldnt be haviin sex,witout a condom, u r giving bad examples to lil children, well anyways it is ur choice, but yall cant move together thou sorry