Okay- I asked the question about the lazy husband.?
I got good replies, I have even discussed it with him again. He says that I need to write him a list of things that need to be done. I feel like I shouldn't have to write a list. He should be able to look around the house himself and see the things that need to be done. FCS he doesn't even wash the cars. Any advice? Please help.
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
Hire a good looking handy man! and watch the reaction! he may not be so lazy next time....
- 1 decade ago
I find it funny that as a man myself and a husband that I would find myself answering a question of this magnatude. First of all, if he needs a list to be able to help with what needs to be done around the house, he's not much of a man and needs his momma to help him along in the rest of his life. I was raised as a country boy and I can fend for myself in matters of the house. I can do my own cooking and cleaning and I've never had any problems with getting my point across when it needed to be said.Now maybe I'm being to blunt and to the point, but as a man, I was raised to take care of things outside the house: cut the grass, rake the leaves, plant the garden, take care of the animals,etc... I do wash the clothes and put them in the drier. I also take out the trash. I also wash the cars when I feel they need it. If asked, I usually will wash the animals that live in the house with us. other than that, my wife takes care of everything inside the house. I work construction and my paycheck keeps a roof over our heads as well as puts food on the table and takes care of the bills. if she didn't like the way we have it ,I'm sure she would be gone by now after 4 years.
- 1 decade ago
So you write him a list that goes like this
1) If the dishes are dirty in the sink I would appreciate it if you would do them, or if you see me doing them I would be glad to have some help.
2) Garbage day is Tuesday and you need to make sure the trash is out. If the garbage can is full in the house please empty it.
3 )If your underwear drawer is empty wash some underwear.
Some guys just need a list they honestly don't know they just wait until something is bothering them to do anything.ie. when the sink is so full of dirty dishes they can't get water to fill the coffee pot. It's the way he was raised his mom probably did everything, so he has NO clue Write him the dang list but only do it once.
- 1 decade ago
I had a similar problem. You are not going to want to hear it, but the best course of action is to write the list. Men do not see the things we see, they can't set the priorities, they *can* walk over the dirty clothes on the floor and they *can* pile more dishes in the sink. Its just the way they are wired, the nature of the beast. You'll fight for the next 50 years to get him to see what needs to be done, or you can just write the list. Yes, you are right in that you should not have to write the list, but since they are flawed creatures you kinda do have to write it. I'm sorry. :) Good luck.
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- melfred_20Lv 41 decade ago
I think its funny that you are complaining about him not washing the cars out of all the stuff he doesn't do. They make car washes for that. If your gonna complain about a lazy husband pick something that takes some effort like dishes or vacuuming or even dusting. Then you said he should be able to look around the house and see what needs to be done. So unless you park your cars in the house. Maybe you need to communicate better.
- David WLv 61 decade ago
He's too lazy to do work, you're too lazy to make a list. Seems like a wash to me. No harm, no foul. Men don't see household task urgency the same way women do, that's why he wants written instructions -- so you won't gripe him out on new issues after he does the things on the list. Guys are just like that. Concentrate on what you love about him, write the list, and get over it.
- SillyKimmieLv 41 decade ago
I know it seems like men are confusing, but they aren't! He wants a list to correct the problems you are addressing right now. Men want solutions. His solution is if you make a list he will know what you are requesting. Ask him why the things are not getting done and let him know that you would really appreciate his help. He could be depressed if he is acting lazy. Has he always acted this way? If he was like this before you were married, we expect people to change after marriage and it doesn't happen. If you want to talk, feel free to IM me or email. Have a good New Year & take care!
- chamely_3Lv 41 decade ago
Maybe that should be your list:
1. Look around and if there's something that needs to be done, DO IT!
2. Look around again and if there's something that needs to be done, DO IT!
3. Repeat steps 1 & 2.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
what is your problem... write him a list if he'll do it that way... You are lucky... I wish I could have done that with my ex... I actually did once I wrote him a list what to do around the house ....He got so offendend that he took off for the whole day...I never did it again and separated.....
- Anonymous1 decade ago
I have a lazy boyfriend. Dont do anything for him! Dont clean up after him or say anything about him being lazy. See what happens!!! Good luck