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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsSingles & Dating · 1 decade ago

a man i met online has asked me to move in with him as his roommate but I like him romantically. Should I ?

I'm not sure if he's attracted to me romantically and I don't want to end up hurt if he isn't. I'm hoping eventually we would end up a couple if we share his place, even as roommates in the beginning. He doesn't have a girlfriend. Am I crazy?

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  • 1 decade ago
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    You better sleep with an icepick under your pillow.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Have you two met on more than one occasion? Hopefully you're not jumping in over your head, but it sounds fairly risky (and I'm a risk taker !) What makes you think he's not attracted to you? Listen, any guy who's looking for a female room-mate will never say no to the offering of sex, while receiving your rent. But he may not want a committed relationship. You're better off keeping your own apartment or someplace you can call home elsewhere and pursuing relationship with him separately. Remember, you may be paying him rent, but the environment he lives in is designed for him, his friends and you'll also have to deal with his idiosyncracies. If it doesn't work out, it could turn ugly and then what do you do? I'd tred lightly and slowly with this one. I think you may be young and gullible if he's asked you to move in with him and be a paying tenant...it's more than likely that he has control issues and wants what he wants. You need to be very CLEAR in what's happening and what's expected of you and what you expect of him. Sounds like Unwritten agendas here. Proceed with caution.

    Source(s): experience and a hunch.
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  • 1 decade ago

    I wouldn't say crazy , but maybe a little desperate. Online dating is a dangerous game to play. But everyone has their preference. I think things like this depends on how long you knew this guy, what do you know about him, did you check out his background. Do not rush into something that you will later on regret. But if you do decide to move in with him I think you owe it to him to let him know that you have an attraction to him other than just a friend.

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  • 1 decade ago

    What do you know about him ? Just because you met him on the internet doesn't make it safe, have you had his background checked ? local and FBI ? Have you known him long ? These are very iimportant issues that you need to address concerning your safety. The other issue , are you two on the same page in your communication of what you are expecting from each other . It seems like you're hoping for one thing , and he maybe looking for something else.So ask him that way you want get your feeling hurt.

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  • 1 decade ago

    ever hear the saying "why buy the cow when you can milk it for free?" he is saying loud and clear that he does not want a commitment, and you are JUST a room mate. He wants fringe benefits & half the bills paid while he does as he pleases. I would not move in, if I were you. If you didn't have romantic feelings for him, it might be different. You met him online??? BIG RED FLAG!!!

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  • 1 decade ago

    No don't move in take your time and get to know him for what he is really about.. Ask yourself do you really know him? What is the rush, once you move in you have let everything go in your world and if it doesn't work you have to start all over picking up the pieces while you can find out now the deeper levels on the man your putting your life into his hands

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  • 1 decade ago

    Are you KIDDING ME???? Move in with someone you know from an on line thing?? Have you already met him?? Do you really know him?? Where does he work?? His family? Do you read the news?? This seems very scary --maybe you need to rephrase your question to get some impute that can help you

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  • 1 decade ago

    Don't move in with him. It would possibly work out for you two - but you're setting yourself up to get hurt and cause stress for yourself in the long run. You should continue talking to him if you like him but don't move in until you know he's even relationship material.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Are you out of your cotton-pickin mind.! You must be delusional. Put away that pipe and get a life. many women have died at the hands of crazy men they didn't know zilch about.You must be a hard up desperado. to do that. You are confusing romance and love with free sex for him---bottom line

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  • 1 decade ago

    Go out on dates first and see what can of person he is and don't forget to do a background check you never know who you might meet on the Internet

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  • Al B
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    1 decade ago

    not a good idea. If you have a chance romantically, it will happen regardless of where you live and if not, there is a lot of hurt to come when you find that out and move!!

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