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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsMarriage & Divorce · 1 decade ago

trust issues? (men answers only)?

I asked my hubby if i can go to the movies with a guy friend, and he said no. Iam currently pregnant and married but i have guy friends too..What is he trying to say?He says he trusts me, but he doesnt trust the guy?Should i just stay in for new years and not go or should i go? Tell me what you guys think?

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  • ckgene
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago
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    Having guy friends is ok, but to go to the movies is akward for your hubby, as well it should be. Some things are just not ok. A date type situation with a guy "friend" is never ok. Its not about trusting you, its just us guys know guys. You should trust that.

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  • 1 decade ago

    That is a very hard one to answer because can look at it from many different sides.

    1.One way to look at it is why do you need to out in public with another man.

    2.Does he really trust you.

    3.If your friend knows that you are married why does not say bring you better half along with you.

    4.Everybody is going to male&female friends but they need to know it is only a friendship and nothing because you are love with the person you said you would live the rest of your life with.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Depends on how long you have been married and how well you know this other guy. My wife meets a guy that she went to high school with several times a year and they have lunch. They are good friends and I trust her completely. Your husband should reailze that if you were going to have an affair, you wouldn't be so open about it and it wouldn't take a movie to get together with someone. And where is your husband going to be during this movie? If your hubby is going to be home, you might try spending the evening with him.

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  • 1 decade ago

    well if you are pregnant and married first thing you really care about your self and a baby. you can celebrate when your baby will born and i promise you'll be happy on that day and that day is rather more important than a new years day. Regarding trust i think hubby really cares about you thats the reason he said no to you. but i don't understand why does he said he doesnot trust the guy. anyway take care and give my regards to new baby.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Well for one I wouldn't go anywhere with out your husband even if it's just a friend. DOn't hurt to bring him along or is it another reason you don't wnat your husband around. If it is you need to talk with him and explain the reason.It's not that h e doesn't trust you it's the notion your out with a guy that he doesn't trust. It's what the people will say when they see you with someone else and not him.

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  • brp_13
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    I say you stay home, you ask him he an gave you answer, he is not you daddy. You are trying to read to much into it. He is just wanting you to show love and respect for his feeling's, and it would appear that you are not going to. Getting on here wanting some guy to tell you that he is being controlling, and you should go just to teach him a lesson.

    I say make you choices now..it's either him, or all your other guy friends.

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  • 1 decade ago

    I wouldn't like the idea either but if I trusted you I would probably let you go. I have female friends and I'm pretty sure their boyfriends and husbands wouldn't want them going out with me alone and I'm harmless. Trust is very hard to earn and easy to lose.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    A few years back I met the woman of my dreams, she was so beautiful, I almost cannot believe she was my girlfriend. No one believes me, because no one in my life knew her. One day she informed me her co-worker asked her to a movie. She said the guy was so lonely and pathetic she felt sorry for him. I looked into her big beautiful eyes and I said, "sure I trust you." Next thing you know she was giving him a ********. So to answer your question, if you love your husband, why would you even considering spending time with another man ? The road to hell is paved with good intentions, don't do it, the last thing you want to risk is being a single mother. If you love your husband honor his wishes. You shouldn't even have to ask.

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  • 4 years ago

    it is not your lady buddy. the issue is with the father of her different toddlers. you ought to comprehend his needs in simple terms as you pick for another guy to comprehend your needs concerning your new child. (actual?) it incredibly is an analogous factor. in simple terms enable your lady buddy to look after this. attempt to no longer contain your self of their toddlers, i think of it ought to be too lots on your lady buddy to handle. You sound like a large guy and father. possibly once you adjust into the stepfather to those toddlers you have got greater of a say. For now you're in basic terms a boyfriend, so each and every thing is very constrained. could you be blessed for loving those youngsters! you're a uncommon locate and your lady buddy is one very fortunate lady! i'm hoping you the two have a colourful destiny collectively!

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    First, tell him what you've told us, that you find this totally silly (you said that in so many words). This is a 1st class case of emotional abuse. Not allowing you to see friends of the opposite sex is just silly. When you commit to marriage you commit 100% . . . he has to trust you and let you to continue to grow, which means you'll have friends of the opposite sex. Talk to him and tell him that you aren't going to let him control you like this.

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