Guys what do you think of single mothers? about dating them?

Sincerely guys,how do you feel about dating a woman with children, would it make you think twice before asking the person out? before starting a relationship and commiting to the woman?

does it turn you off? And what would be your eventual feelings for the child?

how old are you?

And you single mothers how is to date? does it make it more difficult?

Thanks

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  • Benji
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago
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    I never sought to have my own kids b/c I could not make up my mind whether it was right to bring new people into this very flawed world. Would their souls make it here anyway? I didn't know. But once the decision is out of my hands, as when someone has their kids already, then I feel the kids should be treated to the best life possible.

    Honestly, I used to hesistate when I was younger and had a choice of avoiding a situation with an ex husband around and the disruption of sharing kids that might be resentful of the situation. On the edge of middle age, it is so common for the single mother to have one or more kids, it feels pretty natural now. Is it up to me to take care of them? If I like the woman the answer is yes. I would assume they are good kids and want to be loved. My eventual feelings for the child would be a strong bond at the least--how deep that goes depends on how old they are to begin with, i.e. how many years they spend with us.

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  • 1 decade ago

    I would not completely dismiss the idea of dating a single mom, but it is not very appealing. I feel like it could be very awkward to know that you are taking somebody elses place. The other problem is that the life of a parent is way different than the life of a single person with no restrictions. So yes it is a turn off, but it can be overcome if it is the right match. As far as eventual feelings toward child, I think in time that I would develop a relationship with the child as if they were my own. The younger the child the easier it would be. I am 25yrs old. Hope this helps.

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  • shygal
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    I am a single mother of 2...It's difficult in a way because your kids aaalways come first...who's gonna watch them, will they be asleep when you wanna leave?, will they ask questions about the person? bla bla...I've dated guys and it's sometimes hard cause i work and I have to give my kids time so I can't always meet the guy's demands which makes it uncomfortable for him. But if the person is really into you he will be patient with you and he'll even make his dates with you fun at BK, the park and other kids' fun places as he will wanna spend time with you even if it's when you're giving your kids your time.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    When I was single I NEVER EVER dated a single Mom. I'd find out if they had any kids and if so, I'd move on. I would not have invested one minute of time in a kid that wasn't mine. I know that makes me a crap head but I don't care. I was single until I was 21, then single again from age 30-33.

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  • 1 decade ago

    I have no problem dating single mothers! You know right away that they will appreciate the attention, and they likely won't have the time to fool around on you.

    Two things though: 1: Don't ever become a babysitting service!

    2: Never tell your wife!

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  • 1 decade ago

    Single moms seem to be easier to date because they are more flexible, and they dont get outta the house as much because of responsiblity.

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  • 1 decade ago

    yea i would love to date a lady with a baby! i want to have a kid soooo bad, but i cant really afford one at this point in life!

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  • 1 decade ago

    if you really like her, here is what you do........when you go over to her house.......spend lots of time playing with her kids.....see if you like them and if they get along with you........she will love you for it, and you have to see if you can get along with them....if you do.......go for it........if you don't think you are interested, don't lead her on.......

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