Why am I shy when it comes to talking with my friends , why do i feel uncomfortable around other people?

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    I can't really tell you why you are shy, but I can tell you that , that is the reason you feel uncomfortable around people....you probably feel that you have nothing in common with certain people or you just feel that you have nothing to say that will interest them....Well, I am here to tell you that you are a special person and you can and should mingle with people as much as possible and always, always be yourself...before you know it, you'll be feeling right at home...just trust in yourself, like yourself and those around you will accept you, just the way you are, so take that first step and just be your pleasant self. you'll see what I mean.....I was also very shy and hated to be around alot of people until I realized they are not different than I am....rest is history. Take care and good luck.

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  • Ghapy
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    There are many reasons why you are like this, and nobody here can help you because we know nothing about you.

    The chances are you are an introvert, and if you're not sure what that is about I suggest researching it because you'll find that while most of the world around you is extroverted, you are far from alone and you are perfectly normal. This is something you can work on to improve, but also something that is permanent. If you can understand your disposition you can appreciate the benefits of it, and one day even be glad you are how you are.

    People can tell you that you've had a bad childhood and tell you what a great person you are, but I think you'd probably agree with me that these things are really, despite any good intentions, not very useful. If you really feel your shyness is extreme enough to inhibit your day to day living and beyond anything you can help on your own, you should really speak to a psychologist or social worker about it.

    Source(s): Just opinions of someone who can relate
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  • 1 decade ago

    Your shyness is most likely the main reason you feel uncomfortable around other people. I think shyness is linked with low self-esteem.

    If you want to learn to feel more comfortable when you are around other people, I think you just need to work on feeling more confident about yourself. Do some soul-searching to discover who you really are as a person. Maybe even seek some counseling. When you feel better about yourself, you deal with and relate to others with more confidence and ease.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Psychologist, Erikson, would say it was because as an infant, you were not raised well by your parents.

    As opposed to giving you constant care, and building up your self-confidence, they cared for you when they had the chance, and thus, you were never sure when you would receive your parent's attention and therefore have lower self-esteem.

    Source(s): AP Psych
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